What do working women, or should we say, women who pursue outside careers, have to do with children? Everything. The issue of children, and women’s roles, and all the issues surrounding those, are intricately intertwined, and difficult to separate. They all follow a continuum, beginning “way back when”, influenced by wrong thinking and wrong practices that subtly became part of our worldview. What used to be commonplace, is now appalling to the ears of modern women, sadly, even Christian women.
Though many factors started the ball in motion, the Marxism movement played a large role in the changing roles of women, which has affected every aspect of our lives. I’m not about to try to go into all the details of that movement, because I don’t know all of it, and there isn’t room on this blog to discuss it. (It makes for interesting research though, if you want to look at some of the foundational thinking behind the feminist movement. Just google “Karl Marx and feminism”.
Women were told that they were too valuable to “sit at home and raise children”, and that they could contribute much more to society by going out and doing “men’s jobs”. (In truth, a movement fueled by the communist agenda recognized how powerful women devoted to their families were, so aimed at what they viewed to be the biggest threat to their agenda and determined to root them out.) So, a discontentment began to bubble in the hearts of women, even if they did not leave home, and the quiet lie grew.
By and by, as women did pursue careers in place of fulfilling their calling at home to be a help meet to their husbands, lots of things resulted. First, they received instant gratification for their work, which perpetuated the notion that they were more valuable somewhere else.
Secondly, the cost of living began to increase, because of the employment conditions with so many new employees entering the work force. (This conveniently created an “excuse” for women to leave home…now they couldn’t afford not to work.)
Thirdly, the government had to step up to the plate to provide child care for all these children left unattended, so school days were stretched, and the school season was lengthened and programs like Head Start, and after school care were implemented, (and continue to grow). We were also sold the lie that the more hours a child was inundated with academics, the smarter and thus better he would be. So now, Mom and Dad didn’t feel as guilty about carting their two-year-olds off to the “Academy for Tots”.
Next, the divorce rate reached alarming heights. Several factors were involved in this tragedy. Women were now more financially independent, and didn’t need a husband to support them like before. (Contrary to our selfish notions, this dependency on each other is a GOOD thing.) Women were now devoting much more time helping another man instead of the one God gave them, which caused obvious marital problems (It is not good for men and women who are not married to spend lots of time together…nuff said). Affairs in the workplace became prevalent. (The common acceptance of birth control at this point also played a big part in the ability to have “harmless” affairs.) And still another factor was the ongoing delusion that “I deserve to be happy”. So, if a spouse woke up and found himself or herself “unhappy”, that was grounds for divorce.
Finally, it became obvious that children were a hindrance to this lifestyle. Of course, one or two were still fashionable, and barely affordable, but any more than that would be ridiculous. After all, how can I possibly pursue my own life, with all these other people to deal with? Children no longer fit well into the picture. A far cry from a time when women would beg God for more children! And you know what else? For many women, working outside the home is just easier than the often delayed rewards of raising children, especially if she does not have a long-term vision for the importance of the work she is doing. If it’s just about changing diapers and settling arguments all day, who would want to do it??!!
So, our current aversion to children was born out of problem rooted in selfishness. WE LOST IT! We lost the ability to see that nothing was more important in a woman’s life than being the strength that undergirds her husband’s pursuits; nothing could be more important than shaping the lives of great men and women (by the way, “great men and women” are become fewer and fewer. Have you ever stopped to consider why?) Nothing could be more important than strong, wise women who are the pillars of a community, helping those around her in need, educating and training her children, taking care of family, walking alongside of other, younger women, holding families together–how long can our society continue to exist without such women?
When will we be smart enough, and bold enough, to say “this culture depends on my obedience to God’s order”! When will we stop humiliating ourselves by allowing Satan to belly-laugh at our ignorance in believing these lies! Think about it, if what women are doing is right, if it is God’s plan, why are so many doing it? Shouldn’t the Christian community be using the world’s methods as a litmus test to measure its obedience? And the most blaring and obvious irony, is that IT’S NOT WORKING!!!
“But wide is the gate and broad is the way that leads to destruction, and many there be that find it. But narrow is the gate, and strait is the way that leads to life, and few there be that find it.”