Working Woman–Not God’s Design
SO HERE IT IS:
GOD, IN HIS INFINITE WISDOM AND LOVE FOR US, CREATED WIVES TO BE HELP MEETS TO THEIR HUSBANDS, TO LOVE THEM AND THEIR CHILDREN, TO MANAGE THE AFFAIRS OF THE HOME, FROM WHERE SHOULD FLOW AN OUTPOURING OF INDUSTRY, HOSPITALITY, LOVE AND CONTENTMENT. WHEN WOMEN ENTER THE WORK FORCE OUTSIDE THEIR HOMES, CHAOS CAN ONLY BE THE RESULT.
It would take a book to flesh out this subject properly. But simply put, “the proof is in the puddin”. There are a whole host of problems that have resulted from women fleeing the home to pursue their “freedom” and own desires. And the irony is that women are in bondage when they become another’s help meet, chained to the hours demanded by someone else’s schedule, imprisoned by the toll of trying to bear both the curses.
God’s way is the ONLY way! “Teach the women to love their husbands and children, to be discreet, chaste, KEEPERS AT HOME, so THAT THE WORD OF GOD BE NOT BLASPHEMED”. It saddens my heart that the older women are not teaching this to the younger women. If you are an older woman, PLEASE, realize that to encourage anything else in a young woman is to blaspheme the Word of God. Serious stuff. You have a VERY important job–do it! And if you weren’t taught this as a young woman, how much more should you see the need to teach it to others!
She can’t have it “all”, if all means a full time career outside the home, and a happy, healthy husband, children, self, and home. But praise God, she can have it ALL, when she joyfully submits to the will of God. She is then freed up to exercise her enormous talents, creativity, gifts and abilities in ways she never thought possible when she was enslaved to another man. And truly, when we “lose our lives” (according to the world’s definition), “we save them”!
Can she still assist with the income? SURE!!! Can she still be educated? More than she ever dreamed possible! Can she still have a “social life”? Absolutely, and then some. But more importantly than all those things are the tremendous rewards of living of life of obedience (Joy, Peace, Contentment!) And if we don’t understand completely, all we have to do is rely on God’s total, unexplainable, all-knowing, all-powerful wisdom and guidance. HE KNOWS!!! Do we really believe that by doing things our way, they will turn out better than the way He designed it to be? One of the lies about stay-at-home moms is that somehow they are useless, powerless, not educated, not important, and bored all the time. Nothing could be farther from the truth. Satan knows the power these women hold, and thus has fought so hard to get her out of the home! Don’t play the enemy’s game.
“Seek ye first the kingdom of God and His righteousness” (be concerned only with pleasing Him), “and all these things will be added unto you” (you will lack for nothing).
I didn’t say it to make you mad…I said it out of a tremendous love and desire to see women FREED from the lies they’ve been sold! There is an article on my website you may find helpful if you are a working woman, desiring to come home. The title is something like, “Obey God and Let Him do the Rest.”
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May 17, 2007 10:07 am
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Thanks, W.W. You have said that very well! I don’t have much to add, but your post should strike home with every reader, if not in their own lives, then in the lives of their relatives and friends. I dread hearing from older women and younger as well, the expressed concern for what young ladies are planning to do when they finish high school. The implication is usually that they MUST acquire a career, through college ed. or other. Seldom do I hear the suggestion to young women that they need to prepare themselves to be good wives and mothers, for when that time would come, which is often within just a few more years. (Boyfriends are expected, though certainly not proper in most cases. Advice on that matter is often very skimpy and even light-hearted.) Marriage ushers in a total change of lifestyle, but there usually is no encouragement to prepare for it, as if no one needs to… It is almost as if they are suggesting to never marry and never have a family–what a waste of talent–they would say! I almost wonder why we still have a Mother’s Day, since the role of the mother has been so despised in developed countries. We need to raise our girls differently than boys, because their roles will end up being different. That is the way God designed us. No matter how we try, we cannot change God’s design and plan. Working against it only causes confusion and frustration. In many cases, women who have foregone family for career have found out, only when too late, that their lives have become empty. What they thought they needed to go for was not fulfilling, after all. After years of sweat and tears, would anyone be able to say that about working for their husband and children? I think that there would be far fewer divorces and delinquent (criminal, etc.) children if women would concentrate on keeping their families in good shape. Then, she can look back on all the hard work she has done with them and be very pleased. She will probably receive praise from most people she meets–Now that is hard to have happen from just a career.
–Beata
You’re best post so far!
Great post! So many people try and use Proverbs 31 to “prove” that the ideal woman did, indeed, work outside the home. And then there’s always the line that this passage or that passage was relevant to that particular time period or people group. I happen to believe that what God’s Word says is true and relevant to us today – all of it!
“And the irony is that women are in bondage when they become another’s help meet, chained to the hours demanded by someone else’s schedule, imprisoned by the toll of trying to bear both the curses.”
So true! You have a great blog here.
A question.. in reading the blogs about working or staying at home the focus seems to mainly be on mothers and as a woman who is not yet a mother but is a wife, what are people’s thoughts on wives staying home and not working outside the home?
I have to admit that I have never met a wife, church or other wise who had the relevation to stay at home BEFORE being a mother.. I’m not sure yet what I feel about it but I am pleasantly challenged to explore this issue more not only for myself at this stage in my life but also, for any future children I may have and the revelations I can pass onto them.. Any thoughts or opionions welcome!
Sarah,
I mostly feel this is touchy issue. But at the same time, I believe that as a woman “loves her husband”, makes a home, “extends her hand to the needy” and practices hospitality “giving to the needs of the saints”, there couldn’t possibly be much time or energy left over, especially for a full time job.
I also contend that working full time outside the home presents dangers of intimacy with other workers (with whom she spends more time with than her husband) as well as a divided heart. There is also the question of “having two masters” as it relates to the conflict of being helper to two different people.
I don’t have a dogmatic answer, but I think it could easily be a very slippery slope and detract from a woman’s numerous God-given responsibilities.
Thanks Kelly. I appreciate your honesty. It’s a journey, a new and scary one and I’m not sure where it will take me but I know with the Lord at the centre it will be exciting!.. Thanks again..
I understand and respect your passion in this matter. But what about single mothers? Or widows? How are they supposed to support their children and themselves if they don’t work outside the home? Trust me, I would LOVE to be a stay at home mother/wife, but unfortunately I am a single mother raising a child with no income unless I work. Once again, i respect your opinion, but it is based on a perfect world where no woman would ever have to work. Reality is really totally different.
Brenda,
I’m aware that sometimes reality throws a curve ball. My opinions are actually not based on a “perfect world” but a world where, when God’s design is followed, all things work together for our good.
I’ve written elsewhere about the issue of single women. Biblically speaking, a single woman is to be taken care of by her family and if they can’t or are unwilling, then her church.
I would suggest you find a church that believe in their biblical responsibility in this matter. I am deeply compassionate for women like you which is why I also believe in the church fulfilling its role for your protection.
Now I’m lost. Who’s to say women can’t work. If I were stuck inside a house I’d go stir crazy. But I’m not married. I know several who are however. Shared the article with one. Good article, you stated yourself better than I ever could. But how is working not Gods design.