Comments on: Stay-at Home Mom: Let’s Preserve Her Honor

By: Claude Monet Reproductions

Claude Monet Reproductions — Mon, 28 Nov 2011 19:18:15 +0000

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By: Angela

Angela — Mon, 21 Dec 2009 15:12:21 +0000

I believe that it’s the church’s responsibility to care more too. My Granny is widowed and has 6 children. Only 2 of them care for her physical day to day needs. Two other of her children live off her as leeches, but they aren’t believers. The other two just don’t care to take care of anyone but themselves. I suppose she should consider herself lucky that she has the two who care for her.

I have known many widows who work outside the home. I know if my own mother was widowed she would still work because she always has. We currently live with my Father-in-law who’s wife died over a year ago. I know he
s not a widow, but he has some needs too, and he doesn’t want to remarry at all. We even cared for my Mother-in-law for the last few years of her life- doing the things in her household she couldn’t’ do and just her day to day things (and taking her to her treatments as well). When we got hospice to come in at the end, they were just amazed that family would care for her needs- and it really shouldn’t be that way at all. How can we show our love for the brethren if we don’t care for “the least of these?”

James 1:27 says “Pure religion and undefiled before God and the Father is this, To visit the fatherless and widows in their affliction, and to keep himself unspotted from the world.”

By: Lucy T

Lucy T — Thu, 10 Dec 2009 11:17:25 +0000

Jeanette, thank you.I take for granted having a husband all to often.May you have a blessed Christmas and New Year.

By: Jeanette Anteola

Jeanette Anteola — Thu, 10 Dec 2009 03:57:09 +0000

Please excuse spelling…everyone needed me while I was trying to type!

By: Jeanette Anteola

Jeanette Anteola — Thu, 10 Dec 2009 03:54:51 +0000

I guess the things I most needed where those that my husband had done. Silly things like changing the oil, taking the car in for a tune-up, heavy yard work. Of course my circumstances where that I was unable to do lots of things for the first 4-5 months. I still have physical limitations. Just having someone call and ask would mean a lot. Even if she is financially able to take care of them, it’s the emotional support and the little things that count. Her daughter doesn’t have a daddy any more. I imagine she needs some wise SAFE man to mentor her where her father would have. When the father is missing, mom has to be headship that really isn’t in her job discription. It’s hard to go from helpmeet to headship out of necessity. In all honesty I believe that her new umbrella of protection (both mom and duaghters) should be the elders of the church. The need for male direction doesn’t disappear when dad isn’t there. Actually, I think it is amplified. Women who are widows by abondonment have a similar need. Children still need male influences. It’s imperitive for both genders for different reasons.

There are so many needs in a home that doesn’t have a father for whatever reason.

I just wish the need was met better. Sometimes it is financial, others it’s just the knowledge that others care if your family is going to make it.

Just reach out Lucy…you never know when your caring may be the thing that helps her have a better day today…even though tomarrow may be overwhelming.

Blessings!

By: Lucy T

Lucy T — Thu, 10 Dec 2009 03:40:19 +0000

I had wanted to add earlier that my preacher preached a sermon during which he said that it is not the responsibility of the church to take care of widows who can take care of themselves or those who’s family members “should” take care of them.I guess according to his way of thinking we shouldn’t take care of abandone or neglected children either.You now they probably have family that “should” take care of them as well.

I have to admit I really don’t know what are church actually does to help widows.We do have a lady who comes to our church who lost her husband a year ago in a car accident she has a teen daughter still at home.She probably isn’t much older than I am.I am know wondering what I could do to help her.I am open to suggestions.

By: Jeanette Anteola

Jeanette Anteola — Wed, 09 Dec 2009 22:43:49 +0000

Thanks for the encouraging words. The church was not all that main stream, but definitely not of the calibre of the one we are attending now. Yes, God is so very good. It wasn’t an easy journey, and I made a lot of mistakes. However, we never did without, and we are feeling much more whole than we have in years.

I praise God every day for His faithfullness. I am blessed beyond measure.

By: Lucy T

Lucy T — Wed, 09 Dec 2009 17:55:59 +0000

jeanette,

I am so sad to hear about the way you were treated by your church and praising God to hear how he has brought you through.God is so good!

By: Word Warrior

Word Warrior — Wed, 09 Dec 2009 13:28:11 +0000

Jeanette,

I am overwhelmed at what you’ve written. Partly by the sheer grief you must have felt, partly astonished at your church’s response, and then mostly because of God’s redeeming love and grace over you!

Am I right in assuming that the first church that did not support you was a main-stream evangelical church? I am so saddened by the lack of biblical discernment so many churches have…our church is like the latter one you mentioned. Completely ready to love and sustain those in need. Thank you for sharing this.

By: Jeanette Anteola

Jeanette Anteola — Wed, 09 Dec 2009 06:31:46 +0000

PS…I did stay home with my children by the Grace of God. I am still and always will be a Keeper at Home. I LOVE MY JOB!