We’ve touched on this subject before, from a slightly different angle, and I’m aware of what a hot topic this is. But, since this is a DEBATE blog, I see no point in avoiding my observations, no matter how provoking.
I watched an episode of Dick Van Dyke last night. I was struck by the obvious distinctions in the husband/wife roles. Several things I noticed:
- The wife made a conscious effort to “fix up” before her husband came home. She even mentions this point out loud.
- The wife spent a great deal of effort preparing a nice, homemade meal for hubby, complete with candle light, and a well-set table.
- She was at the door to cheerfully greet him when he came home from work.
- She made an effort to have the house looking presentable for him, and I thought it was great that she had even laid out the newspaper beside his chair.
Most modern women are prone to view such a program and balk or laugh at such “unrealistic” events. And that, I find, to be very sad. For while our job entails much more than the few things I mentioned above, those things are a very important part (or should be ) of our job.
We discussed the importance of treating our husbands like a king; such “small” gestures as mentioned above are an important part of that, not an outdated, unrealistic picture of a wife.
In addition to those things, of course you know the myriad of other responsibilities we as wives and mothers must take care of. Add it all up, and our role requires absolutely 100% of our time, energy, emotional reserve and resources.
Without even touching the Scripture’s mandate for women to “be keepers at home”, it would not take a rocket scientist to realize that for a woman to do her job well in the home, she simply doesn’t have time to devote to another full-time career outside the home. Oh she may try to hold them both down, but I said, to do her job WELL, she doesn’t have the time or energy.
I am shocked when I talk to women who rarely ever cook a meal from scratch. The suffering her family endures just from a nutritional perspective is tragic!
I talk to women who change into their “grungy” clothes as soon as they get home from work. Hmmmm….what message is she sending to her family?
And cheerful? It’s hard enough to be cheerful when I have been at home all day. When I worked, I came home with my own set of “expectations”…I deserved a break too…I worked hard too…I don’t feel like washing dishes either…we’re 50/50 buddy…not exactly a picture of biblical womanhood.
So, while we’ve admitted there may be extreme cases, crises, temporary situations where a woman has to work outside the home for a season, it is time for us to admit that a man has his full time job, and we have ours. And we would do well to “embrace our place” and flourish in our God-given roles!