But I Can’t Afford to Stay Home–YES YOU CAN!
Since one of the greatest burdens of my heart is to see women returning home to nurture their families, I’ve had it on my mind for some time to do a series of practical financial advice for women who want to come home and don’t see how they can.
We often hear a message we agree with, but are left asking, “but how?” One of the feminist lies of our culture is that a family cannot survive on one income. How convenient for their agenda since this lie ensures women will leave home, neglecting their God-given duties! But we have so many choices!
I absolutely LOVE finding ways to save and make money. I believe strongly that the Proverbs 31 woman leaves us a beautiful example of a woman who tends to the many needs of her family and community, but who is still an integral part of the financial welfare of the family. No wonder her husband “safely trusts in her”!
I would love your feedback as we discuss these matters, because I know there are many creative, resourceful women out there who could serve us all with your input!
If you are just joining our blog, you may want to read some of the archives about the importance of women being keepers at home. If I’ve learned anything about this journey, I’ve learned that you can do what you want to do when you get to the place you feel absolutely convinced that this is where you should be. To put it simply, “where there’s a will there’s a way”.
So if you’re reading this thinking, “well, what if I love my job and I don’t want to come home”…I urge you to contemplate, pray, study and read the archives. My message on this blog is unpopular…but I think it needs to be said. God desires wives and mothers to be home fulfilling their very FULL time positions in the home. It is the bedrock of a society. And when we neglect to obey, we suffer…as women, as families, as a culture. Stop listening to the lie that we should have a choice about having a career or being at home….we should never have or even want the choice to neglect our families; it’s not even normal. (My husband doesn’t have the choice to put food on our table…) We were created with a heart that, deep down, longs to love our husbands and children. We exercise that love by working to create a peaceful, beautiful, healthy, nourshing atmosphere at home, fulfilling the numerous tasks that cannot be performed in a part-time position. Our family is our job.
Nuff said….stay tuned for a wonderful, saving-money-pinching-pennies-earning-income kind of series!
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September 10, 2007 8:38 am
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Amen!!!
Jia
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I applaud you for taking the stand and telling others about this.
I am a stay at home mother of 7. I have been a sahm since 1998.
One of the biggest lies the devil has told mothers is that they can’t survive on one income. Baloney!! It can be and is being done in many homes… including mine!
From a tract our church prints:
{quote}Our Generation Degrades it!
This generation makes fun of mothers that stay at home. They say she is not important if she does not have a career. It does not matter what the world says, it only matters what God says. Ladies, I want to please God, I want a better relationship with my husband, I want to train up my children to love God, that’s why I want to be a keeper at home!{unqote}
It’s the truth… our generation does degrade the role of motherhood… whether people like to admit or not.
Kelly…I’ve been reading for some time and just wanted to finally say thank you for your wonderful words of wisdom. Finding your blog has been such a blessing in my life! You speak the truth and sometimes that is a painful thing to hear. Best wishes as you await the arrival of your newest blessing! Kim momma of six blessings
Kelly,
Thank you for this. Today has been a hard day for me, in that, I wish I were not so worldly as to be effected by truly worldly people.
Today, my resiliance to follow God’s Word, even though my husband has not, was challenged as laziness, selfishness and haughtiness.
Even though I know that is all a lie, my human weakness came through. I was hurt and wounded. I felt I should have been proud to hear all those things, because I know it is the world trying to tear me down, but, that was not so.
Coming here the last several days has been a restful place for me (odd, as it can cause such a ruckus, huh? lol), finding encouragement, strength in God’s Word, and solid truth.
I tried to email you the other day, but it would not let me. I would love to keep in touch with you more personally, if at all possible, as you seem to be strong and confident in this. Praise the Lord for you!
Thank you for this ministry!
-Jess
Not only have feminists pushed women out of their homes into the workforce, creating havoc for the family, at the same time, a large influx of women into the labor supply leads to a reduction in wages, which is why the average wages for men have dropped ever since the 1970s(the feminist revolution) – this has made it more difficult for traditional families which survive on a single income(the man’s income).
Here is an article about this…
Why Are Men Today Earning Less Money Than Their Fathers Did 30 Years Ago?
I can’t wait to hear this- because I feel like we really can’t live on one income. I hate working and would LOVE to be at home with just my kids keeping up with the house and it looks like it will never happen.
You’re blog is definitely an encouragement! Thank you!
Hugs,
Carmen
Just been a lurker but looking forward to reading this. I’m a SAHM and have been for a while. We have five blessings from the Lord. I know there are always ways to pinch pennies and be a great part of their life.
I stay home with our five children. My husband is a full-time seminary student and a part-time carpenter.
You are right: WHERE THERE IS A WILL THERE IS A WAY!
Thanks, WW!
Wow, is it too late to reply to this blog.
I wanted to share my testimony about how God has worked in our lives.
When we first bought this home, it was not affordable. Both of use were working crazy hours. I worked night, he worked day. It was hard, 3 years into the home, I got to work at home with a call center job. Took on 2-3jobs from home. Then I prayed and cried most days that God will allow me to be with my daughter full-time and not have to work at all. The time and the constraints was just killing me.
5 years have passed and I am now a full-time stay home mother. Took a big step of faith and God has provided every step of the way.
Let me tell you this, when I was working I felt like I was in bondage. We never got ahead, we struggled, months behind on mortgage, months behind on all bills and we never tithe nor had any saving all while we both were working!! We did NOT live frugally.
Now we are living off ONE income and we are saving, tithing, able to put daughter in private school, we are investing, and budgeting. How? I have no idea but I know it’s all God. He has blessed us so much in the finance area it’s unbelievable and I am not working at all, there is no more two income! All the while, my husband’s income have doubled/tripled as well and promotion after promotion. I am able to bless other moms and churches thanks to God.
I honestly believe that the moment I chose to quit and stay home was when God released all his blessings upon my family.
So yes it can be done and when it is done, you will see how much God’s amazing favor.
This is my testimony to those mothers who think that it cannot happen.
This is incredible, Daisy, thank you!