Protecting our Sons from Feminism

We’re all affected by feminist lies, but perhaps the most damage feminism has done involves our boys. Reason being, boys grow to be men. And the thwarted vision of men, and therefore their lack of leadership, is the fundamental reason for families falling apart.

And just as we must train our daughters early, to embrace biblical womanhood, so must we instill in our boys the vision for their responsibility as men. As mothers, our early relationship with our boys is crucial. Later on, Dad will have more time and influence on his character, but for now, we need to understand how we can help him develop into a strong, godly man.

“I just want to be transparent for a minute…I write to myself as much as to anyone else. We struggle, we deal with sin and failure and disappointment, just like any family.”

Understanding that a boy is a “man in the making”, goes a long way assisting us in how we should relate to him. I struggle, as do many women, with repeating things in the way of training, to my children. This repeating has also been called “nagging”, and boys hate it. I have tried to implement a more cut and dry method with my boys, hard as it is.

That is, when I’m dealing with a character flaw, instead of lecturing s him about why and how it is so bad and needs to change, I think it better to give him a simple cause and effect discipline.

For example, if his job is to take out the trash in the mornings without being told, and I’ve reminded him enough that he should be carrying this chore out by himself by now, instead of lecturing him about irresponsibility, I just tell him that because he didn’t behave responsibly, he must do an extra chore.

Another important aspect of training boys may be deferring to their father for certain problems. Not everything can be deferred, but if a particular problem persists, often it is best to just have Dad handle it in a “manly” way.

More than anything, I’ve tried to be careful how I speak to my young sons; God gave men sensitive egos. And that ego exists in a little boy just as much as it does in a man. It is very important to refrain from speaking to him in a derogatory or critical way. I have an older, very responsible girl who “sees” things that need to be done, whereas my sons aren’t always quite as perceptive. It would be easy to criticize them for this, except that they weren’t made to see things the way a girl does! Understanding that helps me to encourage his strengths while being a bit more forgiving for the things I might otherwise expect.

Our girls are also listening to the way we speak to our sons. They will imitate our attitudes. And even though we must remember that our sons are still children, and they are to have the utmost respect for their mothers, we can still “speak respectfully” to them (as well as our girls), without undermining our authority.

I like to try and encourage my boys’ natural masculinity. Having them open the doors for us, asking him to carry a box because “it is so heavy, and he is so strong”, complimenting him for his protective tendencies with his younger siblings, etc., causes him to step up to his masculine, leadership role as he matures.

And of course, the most important thing is that he witnesses, in his own home, a mother who honors and respects her husband, and a husband who loves and cherishes his wife.

As you read these words, don’t be discouraged if you’re thinking, “Boy, I’ve got work to do!” Just because I write about the ideal home, doesn’t mean we have one!

I just want to be transparent for a minute and tell you that this subject, just like every one I write about, is one I aspire to…I write to myself as much as to anyone else. We struggle, we deal with sin and failure and disappointment, just like any family. But I hope to encourage you to keep reaching and striving, just like I am, to be the godly woman He desires us to be!

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