Anyway, back to the “one vote per household” thing. Even if the original intent was not to oppress anyone (which I’m not convinced that it was), the effect WAS oppressive to those women who might have had differing political views, not to MENTION the minorities and slaves who were horribly oppressed and kept in their positions partially with the help of the “one vote per household” law.

I do agree that it’s important to be united politically in marriage, and I think that’s an issue that more folks looking to get engaged should discuss just as seriously as if they’re discussion how they feel about children or money or birth control.

It was when women wanted the right t oppose their husband’s choice that the women’s right to vote was protested. I’m sure there are differing opinions on this, but I personally can’t imagine that my husband and I would vote differently. If he is the head of our family, and we are one, then we should be united politically as well.

Of course I do vote now, because “the system” is all off…Just my two cents!

Whoa… I certainly hope you were joking about that, Ashley. Would you mind explaining what you mean by that?

You make a very good point about the question “So what do you want to do when you grow up?” – which is also the same as “What are you going to do when you graduate?” that you hear constantly while on college campus.

I learned quickly that being a wife and mom was not an appropriate answer – “Well, sure,I mean, besides that.” Like I have to be a good wife and mom and also have an outside job, or a home based business to be accomplishing something. ‘Everybody’ is a wife and mom, was the attitude. What was I going to do besides that, because that wasn’t enough!

*sigh*

In the previous discussion, I understand the fallow ground concept. However, I hesitate to use my own judgement; i.e. ‘I’m too tired to be a good mom right now so I shouldn’t have more.’ I believe that sometimes God allows us to reach the end of ourselves to encourage us to rely on Him completely, or to show us that we can’t do it all and perhaps a certain ministry needs to be set aside for a season.

I have a 20mo and a 2mo, I miscarried twins between them and my second born spent 12 days in the NICU. So it hasn’t been a bed of roses for me. Most, I think, shake their heads at our lack of common sense/child spacing although if they asked we could explain how each link in the chain was made in because of our deep desire to trust God and walk by faith. It only makes sense to wait. But there is a lot in the Bible, like marching around Jerico or trying to feed 5,00 with a few loaves of bread that just don’t make a bit of sense until you do ‘em and that fly in the face of all convential wisdom. If it made sense medically and logically to me, and all my friends agreed, it wouldn’t take much faith on my part. Eve’s choice to eat the fruit was perfectly logical….

…so when I think about the ‘logic’ of the fallow ground concept I still have to go back to walking by faith. This may lead some to the place where God is calling them to be fallow – I don’t know.

Like Kelly, it’s the selfishness that I run into most often that is staggering. Out of 6 couples to get married after we did, only one has gotten pg -by accident- in three years. Everyone else is busy making money, and is terrified of having children. One young woman who adores children has nightmares about her own! A hundred years ago babies would be seen as such a natural part of marrige and this saddens me….

Going back to the feminism issue, personally, I think landownders only should vote (LOL) which is a whole can of worms by itself. I love having a head of the home (it’s not always easy) and although I’m a very strong, confident (I, too, see things black and white) woman I truely blossom with a confident, strong leader.

So I stay as far away from feminism as I can get . . . .

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I am a full supporter in families working to make sure one parent is able to stay home with the kids. I wish we could go back to agrarian times where both parents did (where work was at home, and the kids were an integral part of it).

I differ with your opinions on male and female roles, but I figured I probably would. *grins*

Anyways, thanks for the clarification.
Warmly,
Molly