It’s hard to know where to begin with our makeover! We are women, most of us wives and mothers, some of us yet to be; and there are some foundational aspects to the true beauty of womanhood that overlap into our specific roles as wives and mothers. Some will apply to us generally, as women; others will cross over into our roles as wives.
(By the way, if you are unmarried, take notes and soak this in. I wish I had been given more direct teaching about being a wife before I learned so many bad habits!)
First, let’s understand our fundamental duties:
“A wise woman builds her house; but a foolish one tears it down with her hands.”
We are builders, and as such, we must cultivate the feminine characteristics of our building profession.
“A virtuous woman is a crown to her husband.”
We are a symbol of honor and royalty to our husbands, and must learn what it is to “adorn” him in such a way.
So all these traits we will be discussing are central to our roles as “builders” and “crowns”.
The first trait on the list is *trustworthiness*.
From Proverbs 31 we read:
“The heart of her husband safely trusts in her….she does him good all the days of her life.”
What does it mean to be trustworthy? Simply, “worthy of confidence…dependable.”
*A note for the single women: this verse implies that she is trustworthy even BEFORE she is married (all the days of HER life). A woman must conduct herself in such a way that she has been honorable, even before marriage.
Here are some questions to ask ourselves:
- Does my husband trust me with his reputation…even when he’s not present? (This includes how I speak about him to my mom.)
- Does my husband trust me with his rawest emotions? Can he trust me enough to share his failures and expose his weaknesses, confident that I will still honor him and not hold his faults against him?
- Does my husband trust me to make wise purchasing decisions? Even when I buy groceries, am I asking the Lord to guide my decisions and direct me to make the best use of our finances?
- Does my husband trust me to guard my relationships?
- Does my husband trust me to keep our home a priority over outside activities? (Are his socks getting washed? ;-))
- Does my husband trust me with our children? With their physical needs but also their emotional health? Am I investing in their hearts, or am I letting demands of the house loom larger than relationships?
- Does my husband trust me to maintain my physical appearance? To keep well-groomed, neat and healthy?
- Does my husband trust me to study nutrition and strive to provide healthy meals?
- Does my husband trust me to respect his God-given authority, as I demonstrate that through seeking his preferences?
A trustworthy woman is a beautiful thing, indeed. May the world see that quality in us as we represent our husbands and our homes to them.
Part 3: Make-over: Discretion
part 5: Make-over: Chaste?
Part 7: Make-over: Contentment is Lovely
Part 8: Make-over: Wise Women Build