Comments on: No Dating? And What is Courtship?

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» I AM in Love — Mon, 17 Aug 2009 03:13:29 +0000

[...] back I got an email asking me to talk a little about how to prepare sons for marriage using the courtship model. We certainly have no experience yet, but we are striving to prepare our children’s [...]

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Sat, 01 Nov 2008 00:26:00 +0000

Maybe Ruth submitted to Naomi’s guidance, her ex-mother in law, who (Naomi) submitted to the Lord. Not sure, that working it baby, was the slang they used.

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Wed, 29 Oct 2008 05:43:00 +0000

Question on the son’s pursuing and daughters being pursued, becuase I don’t think it’s Biblical…? Ruth, for example. She and Naomi concocted a plan and WORKED it,. baby. But she was the one pursuing. And Boaz, a righteous man, seemed to think she was godly as all get out.

The Lady Wisdom was similar, actively seeking the man instead of waiting passively for him. (So much for passivity being a feminine virtue-ha).

Is there a NT based verse that led you both to believe that girls are not to go after a guy? I ask, because the idea of the males going after the females is an American cultural thing, yes, but I’m not so sure it was ever a “God” thing. In the Bible, sometimes very godly women actively go after a potential godly mate.

By: Word Warrior

Word Warrior — Wed, 29 Oct 2008 02:24:00 +0000

DOK,

LOL! That is great!

By: daughter of the King

daughter of the King — Wed, 29 Oct 2008 02:12:00 +0000

I dont even remember how i found your blog, but i love reading it, you have talked about so many things pertinent to my life now.
i am almost 18 (just 2 more weeks! and on the subject of “dating” vs “courting”, my parents and i (and my 3 older siblings) have talked a lot.
my best friend and i came up with a term to describe what we mean for what our parents have decided to use for us: applesaucing……to be honest, im not sure at all why we decided on that, but its stuck for about 2 years now. to the point, however, my parents have always told me that when a boy is interested in going on a date with me, he must ask my dad first, and whatever my dad says, goes. after all, daddy knows best! :] and to describe “applesaucing”, we would see it in Websters as :
applesaucing: noun. a stage of life, between a boy and girl, (age wise older teenager or later in years) that consists of time spent together with both families, being a part of each others lives, with the intent on both sides of future marriage as a possibility. the occasional dinner or “going out” in a public place (i.e. a restaurant, picnic at a park, etc) just together (depending on the maturity and responsibility of both boy and girl). working alongside each other to build the kingdom of Christ.
verb. to applesauce. to be in a stage of life together (read description of noun “applesaucing”).

alright, hope this was a rather humorous and slightly helpful or insightful glance into what a teenager-aiming-to-be-Godly thinks . God bless, hope u have a great rest of the week! :]

By: Word Warrior

Word Warrior — Tue, 28 Oct 2008 02:02:00 +0000

Anon,

I’m sure that is frightening or at least discouraging. I would encourage you, though, to anticipate miraculous things from obedience to God. He is much bigger than our concerns–in this area and all the others

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Mon, 27 Oct 2008 23:59:00 +0000

My husband and I sometimes talk about this and how it will work out.

We don't have a group of "like-minded" families close by, so, will our daughters end up marrying someone 2,000 miles away that we have happened upon in a convention, meeting, gathering, etc.?

So far, we have not been blessed with ANY families that understand the courtship thing.

By: Word Warrior

Word Warrior — Mon, 27 Oct 2008 20:53:00 +0000

Lady Sophia,

This is a common question. However, typically families who are homeschooling and/or pursing courtship, etc., naturally gravitate toward other families who are like-minded. Some have a larger community than others, but they can be found

Another thing is that I’ve seen God do amazing things in courtship situations. Families who live across the country and by chance meet and find their children are perfect matches!

Often it’s a friend of a friend who notices a compatability who might bring it to the attention of the families and introduce them.

It’s actually pretty cool to watch all the different ways these families find each other–for us personaly, we have a huge “pool” to choose from…which is why I find it funny when someone hears of our plan and says, “who will your children marry–no one else thinks that way!”

Oh, but they do!

A BIG thanks on the ebook idea!!! I may do just that!

By: Mrs. Lady Sofia

Mrs. Lady Sofia — Mon, 27 Oct 2008 20:30:00 +0000

The first time I even heard about the method of "courtship" verse "dating" was in the book "So Much More," by The Botkin Sisters.

In comparison with "dating," the method of courtship is logical and keeps young people's moral standards in tack.

I was just wondering HOW it works, exactly. Let's say there is a couple with children who are nearing the age of marriage and they believe in pursuing courtship verses "dating." However, they don't belong to a church or know any group of friends who also share and believe in this practice. How should these parent's cope?

BTW, when you are done with these articles, you could probably make another e-book out of them. I'm sure they'd be a hit seller (smiles).