Love That Husband in His Own Language
So often, we allow ourselves to look for the wrong in our husbands…to expect it. And then we fuel it by talking over his weakness to our friends, or mulling over it in our minds.
What if we thought differently? (“Taking every thought captive to the obedience of Christ.”)
What if we constantly pondered his positive traits, his willingness to work, to give, to protect and provide? Am I thankful that he tries to keep gas in the car so I don’t have to pump it?
Or do we get hung up on whether he noticed our new outfit? Or why he doesn’t just “sense” that I need a date night? Do I offer an exaggerated sigh if he makes a driving mistake? Do those little quirks really have to irritate us?
What if we really started seeing him through different eyes?
We can be so petty about the things we expect, looking right over all the gems buried inside that man of ours!
I want to be his cheerleader, his “safe place”…he encounters enough difficulty and discouragement.
Do I create a place where he longs to be? Do I conserve enough energy to give him, or do I give him my leftovers?
As his created helper, am I helping?
Do I smile at him like I think he’s the greatest thing since chocolate?
You want to be treated like a queen? Treat him like a king. (Note to self.)
Related posts:
Uncategorized | Word Warrior | 
December 9, 2008 10:29 pm
Audio available soon!
Good stuff! Great picture, too.
Amen! Husband are likely to jump through hoops when a wife treats them with respect.
Very beautiful and very true! Thanks Kelly.
Very true, I needed to hear this today! Beautiful picture.
Missy
Amen Kelly! I have to keep reminding myself each day how blessed I am to have a husband who loves, cares, understands, supports, and protects me on a regular basis without always giving me the “sour look.”
Thank you for the reminder of the precious gems that we as women sometimes over look in our marriages.
Oh, I liked the picture of you and your husband together; very nice (smiles).
*edited post*
What a wonderful post! I just posted about this on my blog, with a link back to yours. Thanks!
~Susan
Marriage is so beautiful when this is lived out daily by both husband and wife. What a wonderful example to our children we can be when we respect our husbands. We are teaching them how to have a healthy marriage.
Great post Kelly.
thanks for these great reminders!
we can never hear them too often!
Well said, Kelly. I also love how 1 Peter 3:7 instructs husbands to “treat your wives with respect as the weaker partner.” It’s like God’s giving husbands a gentle reminder, “Remember, your wives speak their own love language, but don’t forget that they need respect as well as love.” Just like we need to remember that our husbands like a little lovin’ with their respect!
~Bethany
Kelly, may I please print this in my church ladies’ newsletter? We have a teeny readership — maybe fifteen.
)
You can email me at johnsonhome at frontiernet dot net.
Thank you. Beautiful words!
Sally