Comments on: Socialization: Ask the Right Question http://www.generationcedar.com/main/2008/12/socialization-ask-right-question.html Fri, 10 Sep 2010 13:40:25 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Civilla http://www.generationcedar.com/main/2008/12/socialization-ask-right-question.html/comment-page-1#comment-7040 Civilla Fri, 19 Dec 2008 17:43:00 +0000 http://www.generationcedar.com/main/2008/12/socialization-ask-the-right-question.html#comment-7040 This is certainly a wonderful "revelation" about socialization. A rediscovered truth! This is certainly a wonderful “revelation” about socialization. A rediscovered truth!

]]> By: authenticallyme http://www.generationcedar.com/main/2008/12/socialization-ask-right-question.html/comment-page-1#comment-6973 authenticallyme Mon, 15 Dec 2008 16:46:00 +0000 http://www.generationcedar.com/main/2008/12/socialization-ask-the-right-question.html#comment-6973 I also wanted to add that I find it peculiar that we as a body, generally group our mens and laides bible studies according to age.......'married' classes, classes for moms with young tots, etc. Nothing inherently wrong with this, but it really secludes us as people into age groups, and keeps us where we were since public school days. If older women should teach the younger, where is there good opportunity for this to occur within the church? I also find older people LOVE younger people and children gfor great company. Some of my favorite ways to serve is by helping older women clean, or keep them company, etc. But the churches around my area anyway, dont really encourage this by segregating us while in our bible studies, etc. Just my thoughts. I also wanted to add that I find it peculiar that we as a body, generally group our mens and laides bible studies according to age…….’married’ classes, classes for moms with young tots, etc. Nothing inherently wrong with this, but it really secludes us as people into age groups, and keeps us where we were since public school days. If older women should teach the younger, where is there good opportunity for this to occur within the church? I also find older people LOVE younger people and children gfor great company. Some of my favorite ways to serve is by helping older women clean, or keep them company, etc. But the churches around my area anyway, dont really encourage this by segregating us while in our bible studies, etc. Just my thoughts.

]]> By: Kathi Bailey http://www.generationcedar.com/main/2008/12/socialization-ask-right-question.html/comment-page-1#comment-6971 Kathi Bailey Mon, 15 Dec 2008 13:41:00 +0000 http://www.generationcedar.com/main/2008/12/socialization-ask-the-right-question.html#comment-6971 Your post is so true. We are first year homeschoolers, and this has been one the biggest issues for us. We now choose EVERY outside activity carefully.<br/><br/>I've been reading your blog for months, it is such an encouragement to me. Thank you!<br/><br/>-Kathi Your post is so true. We are first year homeschoolers, and this has been one the biggest issues for us. We now choose EVERY outside activity carefully.

I’ve been reading your blog for months, it is such an encouragement to me. Thank you!

-Kathi

]]> By: authenticallyme http://www.generationcedar.com/main/2008/12/socialization-ask-right-question.html/comment-page-1#comment-6966 authenticallyme Mon, 15 Dec 2008 02:46:00 +0000 http://www.generationcedar.com/main/2008/12/socialization-ask-the-right-question.html#comment-6966 I agree. Most people do not really comprehend 'socialization', in its entirety....I think most people assume socialization means with kids their onw age, and most non-homeshcoolers do not realize what they are even asking, maybe? I did find that homeschooling, alongside belonging to a church where there was only ONE childrens group, ONE mens group, and ONE womens group, allowed for the whole family to learn better socialization. We really enjoy doing things all together...as a family....not matching up age groups for 'play dates'etc. I myself was not properly socialized, and to this day struggle a bit in how to really deal with myself, others, and conflict. But I am learning; it is never too late! :) I agree. Most people do not really comprehend ’socialization’, in its entirety….I think most people assume socialization means with kids their onw age, and most non-homeshcoolers do not realize what they are even asking, maybe? I did find that homeschooling, alongside belonging to a church where there was only ONE childrens group, ONE mens group, and ONE womens group, allowed for the whole family to learn better socialization. We really enjoy doing things all together…as a family….not matching up age groups for ‘play dates’etc. I myself was not properly socialized, and to this day struggle a bit in how to really deal with myself, others, and conflict. But I am learning; it is never too late! :)

]]> By: Civilla http://www.generationcedar.com/main/2008/12/socialization-ask-right-question.html/comment-page-1#comment-6963 Civilla Sun, 14 Dec 2008 15:09:00 +0000 http://www.generationcedar.com/main/2008/12/socialization-ask-the-right-question.html#comment-6963 This is just such an excellent post. I'm going to remember it any time I think about socialization and manners. This is just such an excellent post. I’m going to remember it any time I think about socialization and manners.

]]> By: Tracy http://www.generationcedar.com/main/2008/12/socialization-ask-right-question.html/comment-page-1#comment-6961 Tracy Sun, 14 Dec 2008 02:51:00 +0000 http://www.generationcedar.com/main/2008/12/socialization-ask-the-right-question.html#comment-6961 amen!! great post amen!! great post

]]> By: Jeanette in WA http://www.generationcedar.com/main/2008/12/socialization-ask-right-question.html/comment-page-1#comment-6960 Jeanette in WA Sat, 13 Dec 2008 23:26:00 +0000 http://www.generationcedar.com/main/2008/12/socialization-ask-the-right-question.html#comment-6960 Well put. My mother-in-law once told me, "The only thing children learn from other children are their bad habits." And from that point on I worried much less about my children's quantity of time with their peers because I knew how right she was.<br/>I thank God for your blog and I am grateful that my friend introduced me to it. What a blessing to know that there are others out there who know how I feel. Well put. My mother-in-law once told me, “The only thing children learn from other children are their bad habits.” And from that point on I worried much less about my children’s quantity of time with their peers because I knew how right she was.
I thank God for your blog and I am grateful that my friend introduced me to it. What a blessing to know that there are others out there who know how I feel.

]]> By: Angela http://www.generationcedar.com/main/2008/12/socialization-ask-right-question.html/comment-page-1#comment-6959 Angela Sat, 13 Dec 2008 19:22:00 +0000 http://www.generationcedar.com/main/2008/12/socialization-ask-the-right-question.html#comment-6959 "If we want to keep our children on a moral path, we cannot place them in the midst of immoral children. No matter how godly and upright our sons and daughters are, regardless of how well we have raised them, we cannot expect them to prevail over the laws of sociology. When we allow them to socialize with a peer group that holds a different set of values, our children will inevitably begin to adopt those values. It's not even a conscious thing. Many families have seen years of godly training suddenly vanish after sending their children to school or allowing them to interact with worldly peers.<br/><br/>The same principle applies to all of us. Though we are to be a light to the world, we are not to be of the world. The people of God are supposed to be a different type of people altogether. In order to be different, we need to maintain strong boundaries." <br/><br/>Quote from First Fruits of Zion<br/>The Weekly eDrash “If we want to keep our children on a moral path, we cannot place them in the midst of immoral children. No matter how godly and upright our sons and daughters are, regardless of how well we have raised them, we cannot expect them to prevail over the laws of sociology. When we allow them to socialize with a peer group that holds a different set of values, our children will inevitably begin to adopt those values. It’s not even a conscious thing. Many families have seen years of godly training suddenly vanish after sending their children to school or allowing them to interact with worldly peers.

The same principle applies to all of us. Though we are to be a light to the world, we are not to be of the world. The people of God are supposed to be a different type of people altogether. In order to be different, we need to maintain strong boundaries.”

Quote from First Fruits of Zion
The Weekly eDrash

]]> By: Sarah http://www.generationcedar.com/main/2008/12/socialization-ask-right-question.html/comment-page-1#comment-6958 Sarah Sat, 13 Dec 2008 17:36:00 +0000 http://www.generationcedar.com/main/2008/12/socialization-ask-the-right-question.html#comment-6958 We as adults may not be properly (biblically) socialized - very good point!! We as adults may not be properly (biblically) socialized – very good point!!

]]> By: Evenspor http://www.generationcedar.com/main/2008/12/socialization-ask-right-question.html/comment-page-1#comment-6957 Evenspor Sat, 13 Dec 2008 14:06:00 +0000 http://www.generationcedar.com/main/2008/12/socialization-ask-the-right-question.html#comment-6957 Exactly! This is one reason we plan to homeschool. We want our children to be socialized by these kinds of standards. That is definitely not the kind of socialization they find in public school. When I think back to the kinds of social relations that happened on the playground I wonder why people think that's a natural or ideal way for children to learn to interact with others. Exactly! This is one reason we plan to homeschool. We want our children to be socialized by these kinds of standards. That is definitely not the kind of socialization they find in public school. When I think back to the kinds of social relations that happened on the playground I wonder why people think that’s a natural or ideal way for children to learn to interact with others.

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