One of the sweetest privileges of being a mother is the duty/opportunity to fill the minds and hearts of my children with things that are true, honest, just, pure, lovely, good, praise-worthy and virtuous. (Philippians 4:8)
After all, if the Bible admonishes us to do something, how much more are we responsible to direct our children to that command!
Look around…I was thinking how lost this concept is among people, even Christians. Most children’s minds are being filled with everything opposite the above virtues…either by neglect of parents to protect them, or by a horrific misunderstanding that “they need to learn about the real world”. Parents really believe that exposure to sin and immorality is “good” for their children!
The real world…yes, it’s full of sin, violence and misery. It can’t be avoided. But where in the Bible does it say we are to saturate our young children with those things in order to better prepare them? In fact, where does it say that even we adults are better prepared for life when we ruminate on its ills?
It doesn’t. Every admonition is given to renew our minds with what is good, not what is evil.
I would suggest that there has never been a time in history when we have to work so hard with feeding the minds of our children with what is good. The tabloids in the check out line, the billboards along the interstate, the posters at the convenience store, television, conversations overheard–we are bombarded with lies, injustice, impurity and the likes.
I denounce the lie that children only learn about the real world by being saturated with its filth. That is a deception from the pit of hell that is raping our children of their God-intended potential. Filth exists; we don’t have to “learn about it.” We have to fortify our minds against it.
And a caution to parents…I learned about s*x when I was 9 from the dirty jokes our pastor’s son told me (he was 11). The holy and sacred gift of marriage was forever desecrated in my mind, laying a false foundation which would pave the way for a destructive lifestyle of promiscuity, forever tarnishing my life.
I would even suggest this is one the strongest arguments against peer-dependent children. The garbage that is fed to them through other children that we never even know about is STILL our responsibility. Yikes.
Scripture tells us how to raise our children. We can’t make up our own wisdom and expect blessing. It’s already written for us what to do. We just have to “trust in the Lord with all our hearts and do NOT lean on our own understanding.”
David gives us a clear picture of how we are to learn about the real world:
Oh, how I love Your law! It is my meditation all the day.
You, through Your commandments, make me wiser than my enemies; for they are ever with me.
I have more understanding than all my teachers, for Your testimonies are my meditation. I understand more than the ancients, because I keep Your precepts.
I have restrained my feet from every evil way, that I may keep Your word.
I have not departed from Your judgments, for You Yourself have taught me.
How sweet are Your words to my taste, sweeter than honey to my mouth!
Through Your precepts I get understanding; therefore I hate every false way.
(I wanted to add a clarification from my comment…)
“Let me clarify…there is a difference in discussing age-appropriate realities with our children and allowing them to be saturated with the garbage around. Furthermore, it is SO important to understand the difference in merely being *exposed* to sin, and being taught about sin through the proper lens of a biblical world view.”