Comments on: Husband and Wife–One Flesh

By: Amy

Amy — Tue, 02 Jun 2009 10:34:54 +0000

True, I cannot argue with you on religious grounds (not of the same faith).
I just felt I needed to comment because it’s not the first time I see a marriage ‘with two heads’ called freakish. I think if one uses an analogy that compares the human body to marriage, it should not be so limited. I guess I didn’t understand why the analogy would pertain to only one part of the body.

Anyway….we’ve managed with ‘two heads’ for almost twenty years and we seem to be doing very well (certainly better than the folks commenting above!). I suppose it helps that we generally look in the same direction…

By: Leslie Viles

Leslie Viles — Mon, 01 Jun 2009 20:56:24 +0000

Amy,

There are problems because all people are people. All people are imperfect, but still many are trying to live in God’s will.

By: wordwarrior

wordwarrior — Mon, 01 Jun 2009 19:19:06 +0000

Amy,

Perhaps you’re trying to take the analogy too far? Not exactly sure what it is you “don’t get”…I can only speak as a Christian from the Word of God (this is not “my theory”…it’s what God has clearly spoken and is not to be argued with if you are a believer). He said “the two shall become one flesh” and “the husband shall be the head–treating his wife as his own body” meaning he will lead her and guide her as one who goes before another, laying down his life for her.

I’ve never understood why the term is so offensive to women. It can only be offensive if you don’t understand it’s meaning. There is nothing offensive in a man who “lays down his life for me–treating me as his own flesh”, and I will gladly submit to such a rare and precious thing.

By: Amy

Amy — Mon, 01 Jun 2009 18:38:13 +0000

I don’t get it….a body with two heads is ‘freakish’, but a couple should have ‘a unified heart’? Why should two hearts become one, when you imply the head should be the husband’s? Is a double heart less freakish than a double head?
The problems with one head leading are only too apparent above.

By: Word Warrior

Word Warrior — Sun, 31 May 2009 15:53:17 +0000

Lady S.,

I did get one from you…are you referring to another one?

By: Mrs W

Mrs W — Sun, 31 May 2009 14:52:21 +0000

Lori, HE has a budget, WE do not. He doesn’t think my input on the budget is necessary because I might like to do things he doesn’t like. We had pre-marital counseling and we’ve had some since, from a person that thought that any marriage problem was the fault of the woman just because she is a woman.

By: Mrs. Lady Sofia

Mrs. Lady Sofia — Sun, 31 May 2009 07:18:09 +0000

Kelly,

I see where you are coming from now. I should have realized that you were not making a blanket statement, but you were only giving an example.

BTW, I tried to respond to an email that you sent me about a week ago, and when I sent the response, the email came back to me. What’s going-on?

By: Lori

Lori — Sun, 31 May 2009 00:00:48 +0000

Mrs. W – believe it or not, this could just be a rough patch. I certainly believe in pre and post marital counseling (most folks tend to do one or the other, if any). And a lot of prayer and patience, assuming that you’ve already communicated. He might outgrow this. But a budget system sounds like a really good starting point (I think you mentioned that?).

By: Kim M.

Kim M. — Sat, 30 May 2009 23:20:30 +0000

Lady Sofia, didn’t mean to offend either. I think by my using the words “I was shocked”, I went a little overboard. Maybe I should have said “surprised”…

Kelly I apologize to you too. I guess although we do get what you are trying to say but we sometimes tend to point out what stands out to us or what other commenters say. LOL… your google sidebar is hilarious right now. “Download Your Own Divorce”… not that in itself is funny but the fact that it is offering ways to get a divorce when we are talking about the opposite.

By: Mrs W

Mrs W — Sat, 30 May 2009 20:48:40 +0000

I’m not really sure a couple can be one flesh when the man doesn’t care about what his wife thinks about anything but just makes decisions without her. On one hand he says I’m intelligent and valuable, but NEVER does he consider what I think of an issue to be important. By the time he talks to me he has ALREADY made up his mind. By the way, I don’t like having to beg for money for stuff we need just to be told no, either. (While he does whatever he wants with the money).