Why I’m Not a Supermom (Or Pretend to Be)
The last time I posted about Olivia’s service to me by voluntarily coming over half a day and helping us clean the house, one commenter angrily said, “If you would get off the computer and stop having so many kids you wouldn’t have to have help”. (More about that down the page.)
Since I posted again yesterday about the food they brought, I thought of that comment and it brought some very telling thoughts to mind.
We are so brainwashed. Especially as women. “You can do it all” has become “You should do it all”. And we have forsaken the beauty and joy of the serving hands of the body of Christ!
But as Christians, helping each other is one of our joys. We NEED to need others, and to be needed. We need weakness because it creates the biblical response of service. (Of course there is balance…)
Inside the family as well as the extended body of Christ–it is a GOOD thing to accept help, to give help, and to acknowledge our need for it from time to time.
The culture has also said, “get rid of the weak”. Don’t believe me? Do some research and find out what percentage of “handicapped” children are aborted in the womb.
And if we’re not careful, we let the same thoughts creep into our thinking.
God’s Word says weakness is the only channel through which God’s power can be revealed. The world says weakness is to be covered, rooted out and hated.
I’ve seen mothers of many try to hide their needs, their struggles, their physical limitations because as soon as they reveal it, someone is waiting to point a finger at their children. How completely opposite a biblical response!
I wrote an article comparing the “mission of motherhood” to other noble missions, discussing how differently we view the two. And even considering Paul, we see how wrong our attitudes toward mothers can be. Remember, Paul was called to preach. One might, in his human wisdom, assume that God would fling open the doors of success to him, and make the road as easy as possible.
The opposite happened. Worse suffering than any of us will ever imagine. Was Paul wrong? Should he have just “lain in the bed he made”? No, we admire Paul for doing what the Lord called him to, even if it meant his very life. And we admire those around him who cared for his physical needs.
Why do we treat mothers differently?
I’ve also heard some accuse large families of “putting too much work on their children”. Listen…close your ears to this self-centered, feel-good society that’s turning out a bunch of coddled, grown-up children–this life is about working together, serving together, and spending ourselves for others! What are we teaching our children if not that? God has created the family for the very purpose of learning how to serve one another!
Christians, be careful not to let the antithesis of God’s Word be our standard!
(I wanted to briefly respond to that comment I mentioned, though I don’t feel obligated 
, but for the sake of those who do ask “How do you do it?”…
Blogging is something I certainly love, and it can be a challenge to keep it in the right perspective, simply because I love it, not because it demands me.
With no boasting intended, I write really fast. A typical post takes me about 10 minutes. I blog extra posts on days when I have a bigger window of time, and schedule them or save them for later. (Non-bloggers may not be aware that you can write a post in January and schedule it to post in July
It is my one ”extra” ministry/hobby/business which I feel the Lord has allowed me to utilize to earn a little extra money for our family (Prov. 31). (I simply don’t do a lot of other extra stuff–shop, go places, watch tv, etc.) and I constantly pray that the Lord would help me keep balance.)
So, did I have to have Olivia help me clean the house? Or the girls bring us food? Of course not, nor did I ask them. They came because their heart’s desire is to serve where they see a little extra encouragement is needed. They came because the Bible says:
“Truly I say unto you, Inasmuch as ye have done it unto one of the least of these my brethren, ye have done it unto me.”
Could we actually embrace a little dependence as a blessing? Could we view the demands of life–the work, the “stuff” of the day–even the hard things–as gifts from God to make us more like Him? I pray we can.
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Wow. I can’t believe someone “said” that to you.
You’re right, you didn’t have to respond to it, nor did it really deserve a response. The response you did give was well said, though
Wow. You go out of your way to praise someone and you get attacked for (essentialliy) allowing them to behave in a praiseworthy manner.
Funny, speaking of women expecting themselves to do it all, I heard a woman bragging (via a letter read on the radio) on Saturday about how she DID do it all – work full time, keep house, do laundry (including two loads of cloth diapers each week), etc. She actually wrote that she was writing to point out that SHE did it all (as opposed to those women who could only manage staying home or working). La. Di. Da. Now contrasted beautifully with your humility – Thanks.
Oops. I really should have written, “working outside the home”. I don’t like it when I do that. Just speaking in an abbreviated fashion, I guess.
Weaknesses BUILD relationships… Where I can provide a meal or help someone teach their child to sleep, someone else may help me change my tyre or care for my children when I am in hospital. Independence creates loneliness and selfishness in my experience. I just love to help others, it’s nice to be needed by others and it’s such a blessing to be learning to allow others to help me.
I agree with you 100%! We are a body of Christ, not an individual limb! We need to be serving and encouraging one another.
May the LORD continue to be glorified through young ladies like the Brodocks and through God honoring bloggers like my e-friend, Kelly!
I wonder if your cranky commentator observed that she herself must have been on the computer to read your post?
You are an encouragement to many of us, dear Kelly. Thank you for taking the time to share your thoughts and observations with us.
Kelly,
Thank you so much for your encouragement. I sometimes find myself asking “Am I crazy?” Trying to keep up with selling our home, being pregnant with our 5th child when the oldest is only 7, and now an 8 week old puppy is daunting… it’s hard work every day. Seeing a real life example in you that it is possible to have a family that glorifies God in the midst of “godly chaos” is something that I appreciate so much. Thank you for all that you do and may our great Lord bless you and keep you!
Hey Mrs Kelly! Can you send Olivia to South Mississippi? I’m seven months pregnant with two under two, and am going to be moving house. I have chronic pain every day. Ok but seriously, do you know any of those people that live in South MS/LA? HAHA. Just kidding, just kidding.
HOWEVER…thanks for posting this. I feel bad sometimes when I have to pay a girl to come babysit and play with my children while I am home so I can take a nap, shower, or do some major cleaning. Yes, on most days I delight in showing a 21 month old how to help me, but sometimes the work just has to be done. I get similar comments to what you did.
A lot of the comments I get from my mother in law “well, I could do *such and such* with six children in tow, what’s wrong with you?” First of all, she doesn’t have chronic, daily pain, and that DOES make a difference no matter what people like to think. A lot of them like to think my pain doesn’t exist because they do not know how to deal with it.
I’ve been down in the dumps about this lately, because of course everyone’s response to me is “stop having children” or “let the children you have grow up before you have any more”. My husband reminds me that we are “happily accepting God’s blessings”. He told me last night that we do not “deserve” children, that God gave them to us a blessing, so we had better not try to thwart any of them. He reminded me that my boys are a REWARD from God. He said that often times we just have the wrong perspective.
It has been difficult for us as people have told us that we “need” to prevent for at least a year after this baby to “give me some time to heal”. I believe that having babies can actually be healthy for a woman’s body, and I think you have written about that before if I remember rightly.
Anyway this has been long, so in short: thanks for the post. Now I wish I had someone to help me for a day or two LOL.
How about all of this simply being God’s order?
How about we are suppose to live more in community, especially with family?
There should be grandmothers and unmarried aunts close by to help in raising up the next generation.
Where are these grandmothers and aunts? Most of them are holding down a full time job and have attitudes of “I’m not going to be burdened down ‘babysitting’”, as they trot off to their clubs and social meetings.
They view it as another thankless job instead of investing in Kingdom work.
Why do so many young mothers struggle with meals, homemaking, being a wife, PARENTING?
Because we were not taught these things as we walked along side our mothers and grandmothers.
We were shuffled off to get an education that had little to do with the real world and thought everything revolved around *our success*!
It is no wonder that so many marriages die, when we have not learned how to die to ourselves.
We have no real sense of family, immediate nor extended, and we sure have no understanding of community!
I love what Narelle said: “Independence creates loneliness and selfishness.”
There are a lot of lonely people out there from the toddlers in the day care to the elderly in the nursing homes.
May God show us how to redeem the time and live for others. How powerful we can be when we live the way He designed!
Mrs. W.
Hang in there and keep trusting the Lord (and accept helps as it presents itself!) I was about to mention the VERY point Kathy made, and even meant to put it in the post.
Years ago, most mothers weren’t expected to do it all. It was naturally expected that extended family walked alongside new mothers (and older mothers) helping them while they had little ones, and this was the way it was supposed to be. No one ever made a mother feel guilty about “too many children” or the inability to do everything.
We’ve definitely “come a long way, baby.”
My husband is trying to find a young lady who can help me for two weeks after I have the baby as he can’t get that much paid time off work. Any time he even looks like approaching the subject he is told that “we did it to ourselves by having our children too close”. Oh well I guess I will just be taking longer to heal after this pregnancy lol.
I can relate to this post–I encounter the “you made your bed, you lie in it” attitude from my Mother.
This does create a sense that you have to be “supermom”.
Your blog is such a blessing to so many. I know that I have a large circle of friends that read it daily and never actually comment. Kelly, you are an encouragement to me and many others. I would consider this blog a ministery, a voice that many of us never hear otherwise.
Blessings~
What an amazing article!! And it hits to the point how confused a message is being sent out in the world about what our Father had intended for us and it’s not meant to be deprecating but liberating!
Would you mind if this post can be shared on our site or you’re more than welcome to join our site.
It’s called “The Conservative Homeschooler” and was created for parents dedicated to raising children with conservative and traditional values beginning with at first, the Good Book. There is a P31 group that has started there and many of the women who join would be blessed by this article.
The site was started by and for homeschoolers who were concerned about the future of my children and country.
There is a spiritual warfare going on in our nation and right now…we are what stands as guardians and shepards of our children’s future.
Conservative Homeschooler,
You are welcome to share the article.
I was just reading an hour ago in my Bible reading about how we Christians should be doing good to all, but especially to those who are “of the household of faith.” Your story in the last post is a perfect example of someone obeying that verse. It is truly unfortunate that the negative commentator chose to use that story to judge instead of seeing the true point.
Oh, and the verses I was reading about bearing one another’s burdens fits in nicely, too.
this drives me crazy. it reminds me of when people say, “oh their kid is bad socially because he was home schooled” or “her kids always look messy because she has too many” or “she’s always tired because she has too many kids” or “her house is a mess because she has too many kids”. Never mind the fact that lots of kids look messy and lots of public school kids are “bad” socially. Everyone talks about how tired they are and most homes are messy when company isn’t coming over. annoying!
This is why I long to be Amish (sort of). They help each other. They live together. Work together. Our culture is all about privacy. About “doing it on our own”.
We have friends that were missionaries in Thailand for 18 years. When asked what the biggest difference is from Thailand and America they said “people don’t share their lives together. In Thailand people eat together, play together… the doors to everyone’s home are always open. Not so here in America.”
I take help when I can get it and I only have two.
Thanks for the post Kelly. You are encouraging.
katie
Kelly,
Thank you for your well-written thoughts.
I’m guessing the cranky commenter is not a Christian and thus has a problem with you in general. But, sadly, much of the Church has this same view of moms of many children as well.
Church communities should be reaching out to moms like you as the hands of Christ to bless them in their years with many littles instead of stomping on them because they are following the Lord’s commandment to be fruitful and multiply.
What a blessing it has been for our older daughters to go into the homes of expecting or new moms and help them with the daily tasks of running a home! Relationships in the Body are developed in ways that can only be developed by being in someone’s home and serving.
Our 26 year old daughter is doing this right now. A family who had 2 children and then 8 years of barrenness were in the process of adopting 2 little boys when they found out they were expecting a little girl! The birth and adoption took place within weeks of each other. What an overwhelming time for the mother adding 3 under 4 in such a short time!
Our 2 sons have been working for this family’s business so we asked if our daughter could drive them and stay and help on some days. She’s cooked, cared for children, given back rubs, cleaned, gone on errands and anything else with which they need help. God provided the help that this mother needed through our daughter. What a blessing that is for all involved!
But the world doesn’t see this way of “spending” one’s time as worthy because no money is exchanging hands! Money is what defines the “worth” of our time….not service.
Which dovetails into our children doing too much work at home…..arghhhhhh!!!!! If our children are going to learn how to be servants of Christ, givers of themselves, lovers of others, then they must first learn how to serve at home, not to be merely consumers of other’s service at home.
The family unit was designed to serve *together*, work *together*, live *together*, minister *together*, have fun *together*, *learn* together, etc. as Deuteronomy 6 so eloquently teaches.
The lie of me..me..me.., feminism and independence is behind the cranky comments. Thank you for exposing that lie and encouraging the one anothering of the Church.
Mommaof10
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wonderful post and great comments. lots to think about
Your words have struck my heart today. I am a very self sufficient person. When I was growing up I had to be. I am the oldest of 3 girls, my Mom worked and my dad was in and out of our home. When I got married, I carried that attitude with me. Now it is very hard to ask for help or accept help. I had gall bladder surgery on Friday and I have had to accept help from my husband and my Mom. I never thought about how I was not being a faithful christian by not asking for help when I need it. Thank you for this post. Also, what you said about teaching children to work, hit home. My children do chores but I am way to lenient on them sometimes. Thank you for speaking from your heart.
Joanna
I’ve given you an award and you can pick it up at my blog http://www.homeschoolblogger.com/joelle. I admire your patience. Your blog is very nice.
Yay Kelly:
I understand what you mean about having to maintain a peaceful spirit. Ya know, even our enemies can bless us, since “trials worketh patience…”
Peace!
Thanks Joelle!
I can’t really understand why you all yell socialism when the government seeks to provide these services for those who don’t HAVE a church/friends/family to do so. That’s the point of it! There is the way things should be and the way things are.
Do your husbands help out?
Mrs.W,
I so wish I could come help you.I have 5 kids now 2 of them are less than 11 mo apart.I also have a condition that causes a lot of health issuses.I belive God will heal me someday.I have learned so much from my health problems.My husband and I have never had much help my church has actually forgot to bring food not once but all 5 times.Anyway you will be in my prayers my heart goes out to you.
Vermont Mom,
If someone doesn’t have a church family, why is it the governments job to pick up the slack. We all make choices and sometimes the consequence of those choices is tough. My church never brought me food when my babies were born, but would have if I had told them I needed help. If the church is helping with physical needs, then they also can help with spiritual needs. The government, not so much. Also, in times of trouble if the government is who people turn to, then they are not turning to God, which is one of the reasons we go through trying times and tribulations, is so we can turn to God and become more Christ-like. (I know that is a run-on sentence.sorry)
Leslie
Oh, and my husband does help to the best of his ability, but since he is the sole bread winner, this does take priority.
Vermont Mom,
We “yell socialism” because ultimately, though the *intent* is good, the outcome is bad…no, horrible. Socialism has never worked full-blown, and will never work. Socialism breeds communism EVERY time. It always ultimately brings a civiliztion to ruin.
No one wants that. And it’s a slippery slope no matter how you slice it. The more the gov. provides, the more they control. The more they control, the more freedom they take. It seems like an irony, but if you take the time to study and understand it, you’ll see that I’m right.
Personally, I think the results of our allowing socialism (by necessity), is the church’s failure to do what the Bible commands regarding taking care of others–it’s part of our judgement.
And like Leslie said, it’s part of a natural (spiritual) consequence for those who choose to abandon God and His principles to suffer tough situations without help.
And yes, my husband helps TREMENDOUSLY. Especially during my pregnancies (he washed the dishes for me before church yesterday just because he knew it would bother me and didn’t want me to have to do it.) When he’s home, he really tries to take the brunt off of me.
Where does the Government money come form to help? Other tax payers who have no choice where their money is spent. True charity can not be forced, it is a matter of the heart.
Thank you Kathy. Perfectly succinct.
Sometimes pride gets in the way of allowing others to help us. Even if someone helps us clean the house while we’re pregnant isn’t a one time event…house work that is. It’s only a short time before it all needs attention again. Pride can tell us that we HAVE to do it all and to feel bad if we fail at getting it all done.
The results from cleaning a house must be repeated, huh? Yes, but it sure can give us a lift to see the kitchen cleaned and ready for the next go round.
It is a sweet thing others have done when helping to clean a house of a large family with pregnant momma or a single mom unable to get to all the detail cleaning because there doesn’t seem to be enough hours in the day or a confused old woman not able to tie her shoes anymore, etc.
Eventually, we all need an extra push from time to time. That’s just the way it is.
Blessings,
~Deanna~
homehavenministry.blogspot.com
Leslie Viles
We did not financially need the food it is just somthing our church does whenever a member has a baby or hospital stay or death in the family.I actually don’t belive in public aid.I’m very simpathetic to any mom without any help for those first few days after giving birth.I was hoping to be an incouragement that it will get better and with Gods grace and provition it can be done.I wanted to add that we have a meals commity at are church that takes care of providing meals for people like I listed above I am on it and help cook for all the other new mommies in our church so it is kind of a joke that I have been over looked each time.
Lucy,
I understood it wasn’t a financial need. With our church (our previous church, actually) I thought they really dropped the ball with new moms like me and some others and missed a great opportunity to show the love that I know they felt. I think part of the problem with many churches is that we forget these are our brothers and sisters, truly our brothers and sisters and we should take care of each other this way. It actually hurt my feelings, just a little, that we were overlooked when our babies were born. Then of course, at that church, many were overlooked.
Great post, Kelly. I appreciate the little bit of time you do take to bless us all with your ministry.
I really wish I lived where there were a community of believers like this, Kelly. I’ve gotten to the point that I don’t even want to go to church anymore because of the snears I get from a certain group of women (yes, my skin is too thin but it gets to you after a while). I can relate to the commenter wanting to be Amish…lol. We’ve been dubbed “The Multipliers”, which is only funny the first 150x you are called that. And we only have five children…lol. Can’t leave the church because my husband works for them. So we soldier on. We do have one other family who has 8 children that we “hang” with at church. The last time they had a baby, the
“new baby meal committee” wouldn’t set up meals for them because it was “too much to ask of the congregation” to cook for that many people. I took them a meal and never told her what was said by the committee. But at least I know how much of an inconvenience I am to the body of believers if and when we have a #6.
Thanks for this post!
Christina,
Oh my…I am literally appalled by your experience–if only the body of believers would embrace the SIMPLE truth of Scripture and not make it a mockery…
“He rebuked them say, ‘Suffer not the little children to come unto Me, for of such is the Kindgom of Heaven’.”
Our pastor once told my husband (when he was hesitant about receiving help from someone at church) “Don’t let your pride rob someone of their blessing of serving.” So often we think that only the one receiving is being blessed, but those giving (serving) are being blessed as well. When we refuse their help, we are essentially saying, “Sorry I don’t want God to bless you today.”
In response to the socialism comment, the difference between serving one another and socialism is the force behind it. Serving is done willingly, lovingly, while socialism is done forcefully by a government, (toss you in jail if you don’t pay your taxes to pay for the various “programs”.)
I am not a Christian, but I am a big believer in graciously accepting help when it is offered, as well as graciously offering help when it seems to be needed. It is good manners as well as the moral thing to do, and it seems that you acted quite rightly by taking the help and praising the young woman who offered it.
I am concerned, though, that it usually seems to be women and girls who are expected to give the most of themselves in service to others without compensation — whether it be spending two weeks doing chores for the pregnant woman in one’s congregation (per the comment above) or serving as primary caregiver for an aging relative. Yes, we want to have a gracious and caring society of neighbors and friends and relatives who help each other. But I think that kind of society often comes at women’s expense.
The trick for modern women is to strike a balance between living a moral life that involves service to others while at the same time protecting ourselves and other women from being taken advantage of. I can’t pretend that it is easy to strike this balance. And while I think it is wonderful to cheerfully care for the sick, the aged, and others in difficulty, I worry that our culture is one in which women’s work is de-valued because is is taken as a matter of course that women will do this work.
Again, I am not sure that I am great at finding the right balance. There are times when I seem to be caring only for others and get run down. There are other times when I am not caring for others enough. But I appreciate the ethic which I was raised, two ideas in tension with one another but ideally to come into balance: (1) Serve others; and (2) Don’t forget that which is your due. We women, and I among them, tend to overlook that we have the right to expect anything, any due at all.
“In response to the socialism comment, the difference between serving one another and socialism is the force behind it. Serving is done willingly, lovingly, while socialism is done forcefully by a government, (toss you in jail if you don’t pay your taxes to pay for the various “programs”.)
Those various “programs” saved my life. I experienced extreme depression after birth, to the point where I considered suicide. Only through a program where mothers are visited could I find relief. I find your view frankly naive. Where most mothers have eight children, can they really extend themselves to women who had the problems that I had? I don’t think so. We are not “forced” to take care of each other. I am not “forced” to pay taxes to do so. I willingly do so for the good of all. I don’t need my religion to tell me that it is the right thing to do. It’s funny how some Christians look the very least giving! Or not funny.
If that’s socialism, I’m all for it. And I think if you were in my shoes – you’d feel the same way. I am thankful every day of my life and my daughter’s life for that program.
Umm……….. Narelle? Could you help me teach my baby to sleep?
Ha, ha!
Misty Smith
Vermont Mom,
Let me be clear…there is no doubt that government assisted programs help people on an individual basis–absolutely they do! Unfortunately, that doesn’t make a system good in and of itself. The end doesn’t justify the means. And as I stated earlier, a lot of the intention behind the programs is VERY good. We see people in need, and the natural response is to “fix” it. But, it can never be the government’s job to fix everybody’s problems without creating a bigger mess on a broader scale.
And individual who is being helped can’t see (or care) about the bigger problems being created, and very few of us are willing to make the connection once it is widespread.
Communism doesn’t just happen. It’s a natural flow out of socialism, no matter how good the intentions were when they started. You don’t have to think I’m against people being helped because I’m against socialism! Ultimately it’s my concern that everyone (including those on gov. programs) are going to be radically harmed by the systems we’ve put in place.
And you’re right, I’ve already said it. The church is LARGELY to blame. I don’t know if your comment was a jab at me, or Christians in general, but I’m fully admitting that the church has dropped the ball in helping care for the weaker of society. But it’s not all Christians, so try to be understanding of that.
(As of today, we were talking about some tangible plans to help out one of the ministries our church supports–it’s a home for unwed mothers. We are trying to give to that ministry in both a tangible form–whatever needs are there, and spiritual/relational form–visiting and hosting Bible studies and getting to know the girls.)
Sorry to be so wordy, I’m just trying to make the point that yes, I know socialism has filled in a lot of gaps due to the lack of charity among Christians. But still, socialism is a BAD system, and will ultimately bring far more ruin to everyone.
I wonder which came first, the government take over of many “charity situations” or the church dropping the ball? Did the gov. take over because the church dropped the ball, or did the church drop the ball because the gov. took over in the areas of charity? This is not a rhetorical question, I really wonder.
Leslie,
And a VERY good question, I think. I may have to do some research on that.
vermont mom…i lovingly say this..you are forced to pay taxes. try NOT paying them and see what happens. the last thing i think most americans feel on april 15th is charitable. if i misunderstood your comment, my apologies.
Vermont mom,
I’m sorry we seem to see things so differently. I understand that “programs” may help some people, but like word warrior said, it doesn’t justify the way they come about. As for most women with eight children not being able to help, I disagree. Word Warrior has many children, and I bet both her and her daughter would be willing to help someone in your situation. I have “only” 3 children and I would help as well. I’m not sure what this “program” did to help, but I am sure there is an equally good program out there that is charitably owned. I’m not trying to start an argument, and I am sure the government was able to help you. I just want to disprove the idea that only government can provide these things. Remember, if government is large enough to provide you with everything you want, then it is big enough to take away everything you have.
I would also like to know which came first, the government taking over, or the church dropping the ball. I would like to believe that the government took over and forced the church out but I honestly don’t know. I come to that conclusion based on things I have seen. I remember reading in the paper around here a few years ago that the group Freedom From Religion was celebrating a victory. They had successfully stopped a religious organization from helping inner city youth. The group mentored young people, helped them with homework, and gasp, took them to church. So guess what, they were shut down. I suppose some people view it better that these youth were left to wander the streets on their own, getting into trouble, rather than going to church where they may be exposed to God. This is the kind of thing that frustrates me. I think the church, and individuals for that matter, would be willing to do more if only the government would let them.
Kelly, I can’t tell you what a blessing this post is to me…haven’t even read all the other comments yet, have to put in my two cents!!!
Yes, yes, yes, I have gotten this kind of feedback for YEARS….” Well, you know what causes it!!! You’re a nurse…get on birth control…you don’t need help…and why are you making those kids help/work!!! Poor things!”
With each blessing ( read child) the Lord sends our way…much to the delight of us all, I might add…..other folks in the church, family, ect. actually snub us in lack of encouraging word or lack of good deeds. I pray the Lord helps me see how I myself can help turn the tide and be the encouraging “older” mother for those younger than myself. Thank-you a million for this post and others like it….it makes women like me weep when we read this Titus 2 way of living for real…
Thanks for the time you do take to blog. I follow a handful of blogs that truly offer me encouragement with a larger than usual family. Frankly, it is hard to find like minded women in the real world on this issue of children as a heritage. I am thankful for moms like you that take the time to use your giftedness for those out here that need the encouragement. Thank you! Thank you!
Thank you so much for your blog. It is so encouraging to see others being faithful in the face of “innocent”, but hurtful comments that parents of larger-than-average families get.
Thank you for reminding us of the importance of living our lives by God’s Word and not by the misguided opinions of others.
Kelly, Your blogging is important to you and to all of us that are able to be inspired by what you write. Thank you for this.
Our society has it all wrong, you are right…and unfortunately some of us fall into the supermom role unconsciously. This only leads to pressure on all us mothers. It is hard though to find that real balance. I am now on a path to rediscover where I stand in my motherhood role… not an easy journey. But this site does help…thank you Kelly