Comments on: God Has Answered http://www.generationcedar.com/main/2009/07/god-has-answered.html Sat, 13 Mar 2010 17:29:51 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.6 hourly 1 By: Mrs W http://www.generationcedar.com/main/2009/07/god-has-answered.html/comment-page-1#comment-13377 Mrs W Tue, 28 Jul 2009 17:25:33 +0000 http://www.generationcedar.com/main/?p=3688#comment-13377 This is my second baby presenting face first and the first one I delivered naturally at home with no medicine. He was 8 lbs 2 oz. I am curious what kind of midwife says you need a c-section for a posterior baby. Yes it hurts MUCH more and is much more uncomfortable, and I broke my tailbone, but delivered naturally. I can see why someone would WANT a c-section for that kind of birth, but don't see why someone would say it's "necessary". This is my second baby presenting face first and the first one I delivered naturally at home with no medicine. He was 8 lbs 2 oz. I am curious what kind of midwife says you need a c-section for a posterior baby. Yes it hurts MUCH more and is much more uncomfortable, and I broke my tailbone, but delivered naturally. I can see why someone would WANT a c-section for that kind of birth, but don’t see why someone would say it’s “necessary”.

]]> By: Word Warrior http://www.generationcedar.com/main/2009/07/god-has-answered.html/comment-page-1#comment-13376 Word Warrior Tue, 28 Jul 2009 17:07:25 +0000 http://www.generationcedar.com/main/?p=3688#comment-13376 Susi, WOW...what stories!!! I am curious to know if what you said about not being quite dilated/effaced had something to do with the agonizing pain...I'm prone to think I tried to push early because I just wanted it to be over. Maybe if I had waited until I felt the "uncontrollable urge" which I don't think I had quite yet??? Thanks for sharing your story--what a blessing. Susi,

WOW…what stories!!! I am curious to know if what you said about not being quite dilated/effaced had something to do with the agonizing pain…I’m prone to think I tried to push early because I just wanted it to be over. Maybe if I had waited until I felt the “uncontrollable urge” which I don’t think I had quite yet???

Thanks for sharing your story–what a blessing.

]]> By: Susi http://www.generationcedar.com/main/2009/07/god-has-answered.html/comment-page-1#comment-13375 Susi Tue, 28 Jul 2009 16:45:07 +0000 http://www.generationcedar.com/main/?p=3688#comment-13375 Thanks for sharing your story. It's good you're processing. God will be faithful to show you His insights. Birth can be glorious or it can be tramatic. But it's all birth and birth compared to the life after is very short. So, keep things in perspective. I have had 8. All at home except for the last one. I've had the perfect birth with number 5. It was 4 hours of labor and she was born just after breakfast time. My husband and I were alone and it really was glorious. The previous 4 deliveries were good too. I only had 5 hours labor with my first and 30 min. pushing. My second only 2 hrs labor and no pushing. The 2 hr labors are tough though because you go the whole distance in 2 hrs. My 3rd, we had a midwife and she didn't make it in time because I sounded too calm (I stay calm), so my husband delivered much to my chagrin!! He was 9.5lbs and came out with his shoulder tucked up with his head. Talk about burning!!!! I was absolutely exhausted after his birth. Then number 4 was only 2 hrs, but the midwife made it and she was born at night and it was all very peaceful. Number 5 was the easiest because it was longer. Then number 6 was fast too and we were alone. With number 7 I had 12 hours labor. I actually almost doubled my total labor and delivery time with him!! It mad me realize how 'normal' labor is. I had breaks between contractions, took a drive and a walk around the block. Only the last hour was hard. Then number 8. I had double the fluid (and then some) for the whole preg. I was able to feel what it's like to carry twins with no actual twins. I was miserable size wise and sick (I have continuous sever sickness my entire pregnancies and just try to stay hydrated!!). We had an unassisted homebirth planned. I had a friend who's a midwife tell me I wouldn't make it to my due date because the uterus can only grow so big. Well, I went overdue just like always. I had my first ultrasound a week before he was born, just to really really rule out twins. The ob/gyn goes to our church and we'd had issues years ago because we homebirth. He did the ultrasound and didn't ask about our birth plan or anything. I went into labor just before midnight about a week later and had the worst back labor I've ever had. My water broke right away, but I had a ton of water, so I kept leaking (gushing??). I figured I'd deliver within 4 hrs as I started at 4cm and mostly effaced. So we carried on with timing and walking and breathing. Finally 5 hrs later I said, something must be wrong. We had my midwife friend come over and she checked me. It turned out he had moved from having the top of his head down to a facial presentatioin. Facial presentations are undeliverable. So, we tried moving him by pushing him way up inside. Unfortunately I was molded to him and him to me and he came down in the same position. At that point my moral dropped and I looked her in the face and said, you're saying we have to have a c-section and she said yes. So my husband called the ob/gyn at home and explained and asked him to meet us at the hosp. He did. By now it's about 6:15am and I'm just done. The short drive to the hosp. was awful because of the back labor. I laid on the seat of the van on all fours with rear up to keep him in a good position and to avoid the cord getting pinched. At the hosp. things went well, but because I've always homebirthed, I kinda called the shots (I realized that later) and had some strange looks from the nurses. The Dr. was great and didn't put pressure. I had dialated to an 8 just because of having had so many babies. I told him I wanted to nurse right after the birth and my husband said we didn't want him taken out of the room after the birth. The delivery went well. He had called a friend of ours to be his assistant Dr. and she went to bat for us regarding all the things like drops in the eyes, etc. They handed him to me after he was breathing and checked by the ped. and I tried to nurse him (impossible for me on an operating table. He stayed with me in recovery (unheard of here), he was never checked again and was released an hour later (so we wouldn't have to pay extra). I was released the following morning. The whole way was made straight for us and this is a hosp who isn't kind towards homebirthers. I was so blessed. I went in uninsured and came out with owing $100 for the pediatrician. The Dr. told me when he came to release me that he wouldn't be charging us. The assistant Dr. never sent a bill, the hosp. wrote it off and the anesthesiologist wrote us a letter saying how incredible it was to be at our birth and that she wouldn't be charging us. I was shocked and overwhelmed by their kindness and generosity. I was so temped to see it all as a disappointment and failure, but God totally blessed us. I found out later that our Dr. called the assistants he thought we'd want there. Considering his views of homebirth, this was over the top. I say all this to say that God works and his will is done. I'll never know the impact of our birth at that hosp. I hope I was able to improve the reputation of homebirthers. I wouldn't choose to have a c-section again, but it has given me a unique place to speak from since I've had it both ways. I have had 8 births and 8 miscarriages. Birth is better even when it's traumatic. And birth is the beginning and some new beginnings are harder than others. I'm guessing you were finishing dilating and effacing while pushing and therefore the pain was intense. I've had that because of precipitous labor and it's awful. And there's no way out and you just want to escape somehow because it's crazy. That's hard. Just plain hard, Thanks again for sharing your story. Continue to ask and God will show you things. Birth always brings more than just a baby!!! Thanks for sharing your story. It’s good you’re processing. God will be faithful to show you His insights. Birth can be glorious or it can be tramatic. But it’s all birth and birth compared to the life after is very short. So, keep things in perspective. I have had 8. All at home except for the last one. I’ve had the perfect birth with number 5. It was 4 hours of labor and she was born just after breakfast time. My husband and I were alone and it really was glorious. The previous 4 deliveries were good too. I only had 5 hours labor with my first and 30 min. pushing. My second only 2 hrs labor and no pushing. The 2 hr labors are tough though because you go the whole distance in 2 hrs. My 3rd, we had a midwife and she didn’t make it in time because I sounded too calm (I stay calm), so my husband delivered much to my chagrin!! He was 9.5lbs and came out with his shoulder tucked up with his head. Talk about burning!!!! I was absolutely exhausted after his birth. Then number 4 was only 2 hrs, but the midwife made it and she was born at night and it was all very peaceful. Number 5 was the easiest because it was longer. Then number 6 was fast too and we were alone. With number 7 I had 12 hours labor. I actually almost doubled my total labor and delivery time with him!! It mad me realize how ‘normal’ labor is. I had breaks between contractions, took a drive and a walk around the block. Only the last hour was hard. Then number 8. I had double the fluid (and then some) for the whole preg. I was able to feel what it’s like to carry twins with no actual twins. I was miserable size wise and sick (I have continuous sever sickness my entire pregnancies and just try to stay hydrated!!). We had an unassisted homebirth planned. I had a friend who’s a midwife tell me I wouldn’t make it to my due date because the uterus can only grow so big. Well, I went overdue just like always. I had my first ultrasound a week before he was born, just to really really rule out twins. The ob/gyn goes to our church and we’d had issues years ago because we homebirth. He did the ultrasound and didn’t ask about our birth plan or anything. I went into labor just before midnight about a week later and had the worst back labor I’ve ever had. My water broke right away, but I had a ton of water, so I kept leaking (gushing??). I figured I’d deliver within 4 hrs as I started at 4cm and mostly effaced. So we carried on with timing and walking and breathing. Finally 5 hrs later I said, something must be wrong. We had my midwife friend come over and she checked me. It turned out he had moved from having the top of his head down to a facial presentatioin. Facial presentations are undeliverable. So, we tried moving him by pushing him way up inside. Unfortunately I was molded to him and him to me and he came down in the same position. At that point my moral dropped and I looked her in the face and said, you’re saying we have to have a c-section and she said yes. So my husband called the ob/gyn at home and explained and asked him to meet us at the hosp. He did. By now it’s about 6:15am and I’m just done. The short drive to the hosp. was awful because of the back labor. I laid on the seat of the van on all fours with rear up to keep him in a good position and to avoid the cord getting pinched. At the hosp. things went well, but because I’ve always homebirthed, I kinda called the shots (I realized that later) and had some strange looks from the nurses. The Dr. was great and didn’t put pressure. I had dialated to an 8 just because of having had so many babies. I told him I wanted to nurse right after the birth and my husband said we didn’t want him taken out of the room after the birth. The delivery went well. He had called a friend of ours to be his assistant Dr. and she went to bat for us regarding all the things like drops in the eyes, etc. They handed him to me after he was breathing and checked by the ped. and I tried to nurse him (impossible for me on an operating table. He stayed with me in recovery (unheard of here), he was never checked again and was released an hour later (so we wouldn’t have to pay extra). I was released the following morning. The whole way was made straight for us and this is a hosp who isn’t kind towards homebirthers. I was so blessed. I went in uninsured and came out with owing $100 for the pediatrician. The Dr. told me when he came to release me that he wouldn’t be charging us. The assistant Dr. never sent a bill, the hosp. wrote it off and the anesthesiologist wrote us a letter saying how incredible it was to be at our birth and that she wouldn’t be charging us. I was shocked and overwhelmed by their kindness and generosity. I was so temped to see it all as a disappointment and failure, but God totally blessed us. I found out later that our Dr. called the assistants he thought we’d want there. Considering his views of homebirth, this was over the top. I say all this to say that God works and his will is done. I’ll never know the impact of our birth at that hosp. I hope I was able to improve the reputation of homebirthers. I wouldn’t choose to have a c-section again, but it has given me a unique place to speak from since I’ve had it both ways. I have had 8 births and 8 miscarriages. Birth is better even when it’s traumatic. And birth is the beginning and some new beginnings are harder than others. I’m guessing you were finishing dilating and effacing while pushing and therefore the pain was intense. I’ve had that because of precipitous labor and it’s awful. And there’s no way out and you just want to escape somehow because it’s crazy. That’s hard. Just plain hard, Thanks again for sharing your story. Continue to ask and God will show you things. Birth always brings more than just a baby!!!

]]> By: Caren http://www.generationcedar.com/main/2009/07/god-has-answered.html/comment-page-1#comment-13284 Caren Sat, 25 Jul 2009 21:09:16 +0000 http://www.generationcedar.com/main/?p=3688#comment-13284 I am on my 8th birth too (in a few weeks), and I have had an epidural and pictocin with all 7. One of the anesthesiologist (on birth 5) injured my back with the epidural, and the last 2 epidurals seemed more painful to have than the actual birth. Although the epidurals have not worked for 2 of the births, I am very scared about going without the epidural. I have asked for a local and possibly pain meds through my iv, but I have been experiencing so many painful braxton hicks that I am just not sure I can do it. I am hoping that reading your post, I will have the courage and patience to get through the labor without the epidural. Thanks for sharing your experience. I am on my 8th birth too (in a few weeks), and I have had an epidural and pictocin with all 7. One of the anesthesiologist (on birth 5) injured my back with the epidural, and the last 2 epidurals seemed more painful to have than the actual birth. Although the epidurals have not worked for 2 of the births, I am very scared about going without the epidural. I have asked for a local and possibly pain meds through my iv, but I have been experiencing so many painful braxton hicks that I am just not sure I can do it. I am hoping that reading your post, I will have the courage and patience to get through the labor without the epidural. Thanks for sharing your experience.

]]> By: Mommy Reg http://www.generationcedar.com/main/2009/07/god-has-answered.html/comment-page-1#comment-13151 Mommy Reg Wed, 22 Jul 2009 08:00:39 +0000 http://www.generationcedar.com/main/?p=3688#comment-13151 Thank you so much Kelly for sharing your journey. I read your birth story and cried for you. I only successfully pushed out one of my four babies and I tore so bad that the last thing I remember before passing out from the demoral they gave me was the doctor saying it was the worst tear he had ever seen. I was out for about 3 hours. I didn't get to actually hold my daughter until then and she was the hardest to bond with. I had two emergency c-sections and the last one was scheduled. I say that to tell you that I so longed for the beautiful birth story. And I have actually grieved the fact that I physically cannot safely give birth naturally. (I am too small and my babies are too big. My smallest was the one I tore with and she was 9lbs 3oz) I read the ebook about a non violent birth and then watched a documentary about home births and the birthing experience. I was so sad that none of my stories were like that. They all included trauma. Reading your birth story and this post has been so encouraging to me. Thank you so much for your transparency. I am so glad that God is so faithful to you. He does answer prayer. Thank you so much Kelly for sharing your journey. I read your birth story and cried for you. I only successfully pushed out one of my four babies and I tore so bad that the last thing I remember before passing out from the demoral they gave me was the doctor saying it was the worst tear he had ever seen. I was out for about 3 hours. I didn’t get to actually hold my daughter until then and she was the hardest to bond with. I had two emergency c-sections and the last one was scheduled. I say that to tell you that I so longed for the beautiful birth story. And I have actually grieved the fact that I physically cannot safely give birth naturally. (I am too small and my babies are too big. My smallest was the one I tore with and she was 9lbs 3oz) I read the ebook about a non violent birth and then watched a documentary about home births and the birthing experience. I was so sad that none of my stories were like that. They all included trauma. Reading your birth story and this post has been so encouraging to me. Thank you so much for your transparency.
I am so glad that God is so faithful to you. He does answer prayer.

]]> By: Jess in Peru http://www.generationcedar.com/main/2009/07/god-has-answered.html/comment-page-1#comment-13149 Jess in Peru Wed, 22 Jul 2009 03:34:54 +0000 http://www.generationcedar.com/main/?p=3688#comment-13149 God truly does "work ALL things for His good." This disappointing situation is evidence of that. You had two choices: keep your eyes on Him and see how you can praise Him in it or wallow in self pity. I am so glad you chose the latter! He cares for you so much! God truly does “work ALL things for His good.” This disappointing situation is evidence of that. You had two choices: keep your eyes on Him and see how you can praise Him in it or wallow in self pity. I am so glad you chose the latter! He cares for you so much!

]]> By: Word Warrior http://www.generationcedar.com/main/2009/07/god-has-answered.html/comment-page-1#comment-13129 Word Warrior Tue, 21 Jul 2009 19:08:24 +0000 http://www.generationcedar.com/main/?p=3688#comment-13129 Shelia, Thanks! "Just say NO" ;-) Hoping you don't need it as well! If I had it to do over, I would have labored at home a LOT longer (are you planning a home birth? I forgot if you said!) The doctors always scare me into thinking I'm going to deliver in the car, but I apparently have long labors...(I'll probably be eating those words next time around ;-) Shelia,

Thanks! “Just say NO” ;-) Hoping you don’t need it as well! If I had it to do over, I would have labored at home a LOT longer (are you planning a home birth? I forgot if you said!) The doctors always scare me into thinking I’m going to deliver in the car, but I apparently have long labors…(I’ll probably be eating those words next time around ;-)

]]> By: Sheila http://www.generationcedar.com/main/2009/07/god-has-answered.html/comment-page-1#comment-13128 Sheila Tue, 21 Jul 2009 18:38:51 +0000 http://www.generationcedar.com/main/?p=3688#comment-13128 What a blessing to hear the perspective God has given you on this! May He continue to heal your body and bless your family immensely. What a precious new little girl! Sheila Expecting #7 in November, and hoping THIS time I don't need Pitocin...sigh What a blessing to hear the perspective God has given you on this! May He continue to heal your body and bless your family immensely. What a precious new little girl!
Sheila
Expecting #7 in November, and hoping THIS time I don’t need Pitocin…sigh

]]> By: EllaJac http://www.generationcedar.com/main/2009/07/god-has-answered.html/comment-page-1#comment-13125 EllaJac Tue, 21 Jul 2009 16:52:53 +0000 http://www.generationcedar.com/main/?p=3688#comment-13125 SO grateful to hear of God's goodness in working in you this season! What good are the trials, the pain, the work, if not for our refinement! He is so good, and I'm SO blessed to hear your testimony on this. ~delivering #4 (at home, Lord willing) in 3 weeks or so. SO grateful to hear of God’s goodness in working in you this season! What good are the trials, the pain, the work, if not for our refinement! He is so good, and I’m SO blessed to hear your testimony on this.

~delivering #4 (at home, Lord willing) in 3 weeks or so.

]]> By: Elizabeth http://www.generationcedar.com/main/2009/07/god-has-answered.html/comment-page-1#comment-13120 Elizabeth Tue, 21 Jul 2009 04:56:24 +0000 http://www.generationcedar.com/main/?p=3688#comment-13120 Kelly - All 3 of mine have been natural childbirths and over time, I forgot the pain. (Right now the youngest is 16 months and we're ready for another one and hers was the most painful,I think, or just the freshest in memory, so I must have forgotten!). Each time I think I'm prepared and then labor hits and something new happens. I think God uses it to show me how much I need to lean on him. I will be praying for you! P.S.- I've noticed and most of the moms I know, too, is that you tend to heal more quickly from natural childbirth, unless Ellia is like my Nico, then it might take a while. (He tore me very badly and broke my tail bone. Four years later, my back no longer aches all the time!) :) To Ellia: Jeremiah 29:11 "For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future." Kelly – All 3 of mine have been natural childbirths and over time, I forgot the pain. (Right now the youngest is 16 months and we’re ready for another one and hers was the most painful,I think, or just the freshest in memory, so I must have forgotten!). Each time I think I’m prepared and then labor hits and something new happens. I think God uses it to show me how much I need to lean on him. I will be praying for you!
P.S.- I’ve noticed and most of the moms I know, too, is that you tend to heal more quickly from natural childbirth, unless Ellia is like my Nico, then it might take a while. (He tore me very badly and broke my tail bone. Four years later, my back no longer aches all the time!) :)

To Ellia:
Jeremiah 29:11
“For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.”

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