Comments on: Large Families and the Oldest Child http://www.generationcedar.com/main/2009/08/large-families-and-the-oldest-child.html Wed, 08 Feb 2012 15:36:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1 By: Danielle Kyle http://www.generationcedar.com/main/2009/08/large-families-and-the-oldest-child.html/comment-page-1#comment-42145 Danielle Kyle Tue, 10 May 2011 03:42:14 +0000 http://www.generationcedar.com/main/?p=3748#comment-42145 Hello. I was recently hurt by close family who no longer wish to share their home with us because of our large family. We have five children, who are all currently five or younger. They are very well behaved. And although this my seem boastful, I am almost sure that it would be hard to tell a difference in the noise that they make compared to the two grandchildren of their own. My husband lost his mother when he was 12. His Aunt is the closest he has. I am honestly so tired, and fed up with the prejudice of Christian men and women in this country. Their eyes are blinded. I apologize for letting it go here, and not somewhere else. But if I may, as a shared prayer to our Father in heaven, may He please bless me with a deep love, and forgiveness. He loves us all no matter how many children we have:-) Hello. I was recently hurt by close family who no longer wish to share their home with us because of our large family. We have five children, who are all currently five or younger. They are very well behaved. And although this my seem boastful, I am almost sure that it would be hard to tell a difference in the noise that they make compared to the two grandchildren of their own. My husband lost his mother when he was 12. His Aunt is the closest he has. I am honestly so tired, and fed up with the prejudice of Christian men and women in this country. Their eyes are blinded. I apologize for letting it go here, and not somewhere else. But if I may, as a shared prayer to our Father in heaven, may He please bless me with a deep love, and forgiveness. He loves us all no matter how many children we have:-)

]]> By: ppompeiiable http://www.generationcedar.com/main/2009/08/large-families-and-the-oldest-child.html/comment-page-1#comment-40019 ppompeiiable Mon, 04 Apr 2011 16:24:36 +0000 http://www.generationcedar.com/main/?p=3748#comment-40019 I am astonished at some of the adults here that were from large families and they adored their lives. I was always bringing up a child that was not mine. I was an child myself. Parents should not be parents if they can not bring their children up themselves. Dont cover up for them. Tell the truth. You were a neglected child. I am astonished at some of the adults here that were from large families and they adored their lives. I was always bringing up a child that was not mine. I was an child myself. Parents should not be parents if they can not bring their children up themselves. Dont cover up for them. Tell the truth. You were a neglected child.

]]> By: Christie P http://www.generationcedar.com/main/2009/08/large-families-and-the-oldest-child.html/comment-page-1#comment-38898 Christie P Sat, 19 Mar 2011 05:35:37 +0000 http://www.generationcedar.com/main/?p=3748#comment-38898 This is me, back again, rereading this post after recommending it to someone else. :) And thinking fondly of my eldest who at 5 and a half, dutifully pushed her youngest brother in a stroller all around Walmart for about 2-3 hours while I pushed the buggy with DD#2. And then, after arriving home at 9:30 pm, I was detained in the powder room, and emerged to find her underneath the kitchen table, lying on the floor, asleep with her head on my purse! She was SUCH a trooper! I'm so proud of her, and will be sure to give her extra cuddle time tomorrow morning (she's such a cuddle bug!) This is me, back again, rereading this post after recommending it to someone else. :) And thinking fondly of my eldest who at 5 and a half, dutifully pushed her youngest brother in a stroller all around Walmart for about 2-3 hours while I pushed the buggy with DD#2. And then, after arriving home at 9:30 pm, I was detained in the powder room, and emerged to find her underneath the kitchen table, lying on the floor, asleep with her head on my purse! She was SUCH a trooper! I’m so proud of her, and will be sure to give her extra cuddle time tomorrow morning (she’s such a cuddle bug!)

]]> By: Jane http://www.generationcedar.com/main/2009/08/large-families-and-the-oldest-child.html/comment-page-1#comment-18765 Jane Wed, 10 Feb 2010 22:00:55 +0000 http://www.generationcedar.com/main/?p=3748#comment-18765 Ha! That sounds like me! I'm 15, the oldest of seven at the moment, and the only girl. I read so much it's insane, write my own books, am a photographer, play the piano...it's crazy! I know how she feels: I get the "do you help take care of all these kids" all the time. Keep up the good work! Ha! That sounds like me!
I’m 15, the oldest of seven at the moment, and the only girl. I read so much it’s insane, write my own books, am a photographer, play the piano…it’s crazy!
I know how she feels: I get the “do you help take care of all these kids” all the time.
Keep up the good work!

]]> By: MJ http://www.generationcedar.com/main/2009/08/large-families-and-the-oldest-child.html/comment-page-1#comment-18618 MJ Sat, 06 Feb 2010 14:27:14 +0000 http://www.generationcedar.com/main/?p=3748#comment-18618 Just wanted to say that even in small families (we wanted more but have two), the oldest is *still* more called upon to do tasks and help with the younger. It's normal and just fine. Don't let anyone persuade you otherwise. My son is the elder by 18 mos. and was called upon by me *much* more than his sister, all of his life, and he turned out no worse for the wear. :0) I've found that the families where the olders get an attitude are the families where it was not taught to be a joy and a privilege, either by the words and (in)actions of the parents, or by overexposure to the world's ways. Just wanted to say that even in small families (we wanted more but have two), the oldest is *still* more called upon to do tasks and help with the younger. It’s normal and just fine. Don’t let anyone persuade you otherwise. My son is the elder by 18 mos. and was called upon by me *much* more than his sister, all of his life, and he turned out no worse for the wear. :0) I’ve found that the families where the olders get an attitude are the families where it was not taught to be a joy and a privilege, either by the words and (in)actions of the parents, or by overexposure to the world’s ways.

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]]> By: Word Warrior http://www.generationcedar.com/main/2009/08/large-families-and-the-oldest-child.html/comment-page-1#comment-18528 Word Warrior Thu, 04 Feb 2010 15:31:41 +0000 http://www.generationcedar.com/main/?p=3748#comment-18528 Christie--that is so good to know...thanks for telling me! Christie–that is so good to know…thanks for telling me!

]]> By: Christie http://www.generationcedar.com/main/2009/08/large-families-and-the-oldest-child.html/comment-page-1#comment-18526 Christie Thu, 04 Feb 2010 15:15:46 +0000 http://www.generationcedar.com/main/?p=3748#comment-18526 Just wanted to let you know this is the post that first brought me to your website, and it is still my favorite! I keep mentioning it to others - still! :) Just wanted to let you know this is the post that first brought me to your website, and it is still my favorite! I keep mentioning it to others – still! :)

]]> By: Lisa Metzger (2nd Generation of Homeschooling) http://www.generationcedar.com/main/2009/08/large-families-and-the-oldest-child.html/comment-page-1#comment-17778 Lisa Metzger (2nd Generation of Homeschooling) Thu, 07 Jan 2010 17:09:46 +0000 http://www.generationcedar.com/main/?p=3748#comment-17778 This is SOOOO true of the older children in our family (17, 10, and even the other 5 "older" ones)! They are ECSTATIC when they hear another one is "on the way" (whether through birth or adoption). It all depends on how the older ones view children...as either a blessing or a curse! Fortunately, they view children as their father and I do....a BLESSING from the Lord! Great post! Lisa This is SOOOO true of the older children in our family (17, 10, and even the other 5 “older” ones)! They are ECSTATIC when they hear another one is “on the way” (whether through birth or adoption). It all depends on how the older ones view children…as either a blessing or a curse! Fortunately, they view children as their father and I do….a BLESSING from the Lord!

Great post!
Lisa

]]> By: Word Warrior http://www.generationcedar.com/main/2009/08/large-families-and-the-oldest-child.html/comment-page-1#comment-17656 Word Warrior Fri, 01 Jan 2010 17:28:54 +0000 http://www.generationcedar.com/main/?p=3748#comment-17656 Trisha, Thank you--what encouraging words! I felt the same...to read <i>"I think we saw the burdens placed on our parents, financially and otherwise"</i>...is very telling of our self-centered culture. We forget the heart of the gospel, don't we? <i>"If any man would save his life he must lose it".</i> That's a different perspective, isn't it? I also thought while reading...my daughter will likely have children far before 40, so I don't think it's a matter of "what will she think at 40"...she longs to get married already, and greatly anticipates her life as a wife and mommy. Praise God. I also know many, many grown children who carried their love of family and children with them and are now living, with no regrets, embracing the blessing of God's sovereignty over the womb. Thank you! Trisha,

Thank you–what encouraging words! I felt the same…to read “I think we saw the burdens placed on our parents, financially and otherwise”…is very telling of our self-centered culture. We forget the heart of the gospel, don’t we? “If any man would save his life he must lose it”. That’s a different perspective, isn’t it?

I also thought while reading…my daughter will likely have children far before 40, so I don’t think it’s a matter of “what will she think at 40″…she longs to get married already, and greatly anticipates her life as a wife and mommy. Praise God. I also know many, many grown children who carried their love of family and children with them and are now living, with no regrets, embracing the blessing of God’s sovereignty over the womb.

Thank you!

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