Zig Ziglar, the coveted motivational speaker and top salesman was speaking about marriage yesterday on a radio program.
“Me and the Red-head (as he affectionately calls his wife) court each other every day.” He said. “The other day we were having a cup of coffee in the bedroom, and the Redhead said to me, ‘Honey, I wish I was younger’. ‘What on earth for?’ I asked her. ‘So I could be married to you even longer’, she said.”
He explained that their marriage was such a sweet one because they worked on it DAILY. He said,
“It’s not the big things, not the big gifts, not the major moments in life that make a great marriage…it’s the little acts of kindness, the small things every day that knit the hearts together.”
Marriage becomes an increasingly interesting phenomenon to me. I see so many falling apart around me and I’m constantly studying to try to uncover the reasons.
Yes, they’re often very complicated. But what if most cases involve a slow erosion of feelings, affection and motivation? (I remember the song “Slow Fade”…”Families never crumble in a day”.)
Zig left the simple advice with us: “Ask yourself each day how you can benefit your mate.”
And God gave us the same advice a long time ago….“Love your neighbor as yourself.”
I don’t mean to oversimplify things, but how many marriages would be healed by believing God’s Word as it applies to our treatment of one another, and actually living it out? Do I really treat my spouse “as myself?” (How many of us hold a grudge very long against ourselves? Or refuse to forgive ourselves?)
“How many times shall my brother offend and I forgive him? Seven times?” “Not seven times, but seventy times seven.” And remember the consequences if we don’t? “But if you do not forgive men their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins.”
I’ve seen it happen in my own marriage…a careless word or thoughtless gesture can enshroud the entire day with an air of coldness and indifference. But similarly, a careful word, a small attention to show gratitude and appreciation can turn the day into a sweet place of friendship.
Chains do not hold a marriage together. It is threads, hundreds of tiny threads, which sew people together through the years.