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By: Carmen

Carmen — Tue, 12 Jan 2010 04:49:53 +0000

Your post was an encouragement at just the right time! Thank you! (I posted about it!)

By: Joanna

Joanna — Mon, 11 Jan 2010 21:34:44 +0000

(((Dana))) That sounds like a very difficult situation. One thing that’s really encouraged me is knowing that God makes each of us a suitable helper for our individual husbands. My path happened to be along academia, and then I married a scholar-library for a husband, and it just is lovely to see how God had prepared me–without even knowing it at the time–for the particular man I married.

I would just really encourage you that if school and work is the best way that you can serve your husband in your particular situation (which does sound difficult), then do it with all your heart, knowing that you were called into this situation for a particular purpose.

In some ways it’s an opposite situation, but one of my best friends who is disabled had her first child last year (now that’s an amazing story, both from the positive choices her parents made when they found out about her disabilities as well as a pregnancy and birth that she didn’t know was possible). But God gave her a husband who is incredibly nurturing, both to her and to their child. He is also more physically able to handle some of the childcare than she is, so they’ve navigated work choices so at times they have both worked part-time, but have prioritized time with each other and time raising their beautiful child. It’s just been lovely to see God’s provision in their lives, and how He provided a husband to my friend who met her particular needs in very particular ways.

Also, many schools, even traditional programs, now offer online courses for at least some of the classes, and depending on what you choose to study, there may be opportunities for you to work at least part of the time out of the home.

By: Amanda

Amanda — Mon, 11 Jan 2010 01:59:14 +0000

LOVE this post!

*Brenda* – For what it’s worth, I think what you’re describing fits in with Kelly’s post. You’re working together as a family. That’s totally different than constantly running around doing activities.

By: Dana

Dana — Sun, 10 Jan 2010 01:43:47 +0000

Kelly–
I whole-heartedly. My husband is disabled and I may be forced back into the workplace though. I’m not happy about this AT ALL! However, helping my husband may mean me going back to school then work.
Dana

By: Brenda

Brenda — Sat, 09 Jan 2010 22:33:25 +0000

I think that there might be a little gray here personally. I’ve read and thoughtfully considered all of this and how it applies to my family for a couple of years now. I’ve WANTED to accept this staying home exculsively, but there’s just something that doesn’t ring true scripturally for me. With my first child I was home 24/7. With my second I was home 24/7 until she was three months old. At this time my husband quit his job and opened his own business. I’ve been helping him run the business for over 10 years now. I mind the office and take care of the books, clean, do ads, etc. My kids have never had a babysitter, except for Grandma.

So now our third baby has arrived and although my workload has been lifted a good deal by us hiring an accountant, I can never be totally free from work at the shop. And the more I’ve thought and prayed about it I’m not so sure I should be. We would have to hire a janitor, an advertising firm, a receptionist, and a “gopher” to do what I and my older kids do, which is just not in our business budget.

A wife is a “help meet” to her husband and since this is what he is asking me to help him with, I would be wrong to fight him on it.

Our kids have learned many valuable lessons by being in business with us. The older ones are 15 and 11, so they have their share of responsibilities at home and at work.

The important thing is not whether we’re at home or at the shop but that we’re together.
There are many references to women working outside of the home in the bible. The women either had their children with them or they stayed with a family member. Although I TOTALLY value a clean house and a homecooked meal, I don’t think that our righteousness depends on it.

What God has prioritized in my heart is that we are together as a family AND that my husband and I are not neglecting to teach our children all things about the Lord.

I’m glad that there are still women who feel strongly about staying in the home, but I’m equally glad there are women like me who are willing to have their children with them working together and being a help meet to husband or dad. It is HARD. It is not for the faint of heart! It would be so much easier to drop the kids at a babysitter everyday, but this is where the fruits of the spirit can be practiced!

By: Charity

Charity — Sat, 09 Jan 2010 20:00:41 +0000

Very well put Kelly. I truly am a stay-at-home, stay-at-home mommy…due to my husband driving our one vehicle back and forth to work, and working loooong hours each day. So, I can’t even be tempted to keep the roads hot with my wee ones in tow, unless I’m up for some exercise! We haven’t seen having a second vehicle as a need since I am home with the children. Family members often tell me how I “need a break”, and that I am “crazy” for always being home. Guess I just don’t see what I’m missing when I do go out You are right, it definitely helps you to stay focused on what you should be. And I just wander how I would have the time to go, go, go? Another bonus to being home that I have found, at least with small children, is that everyone is sick a lot less! And that’s always a plus

By: Margaret

Margaret — Sat, 09 Jan 2010 19:05:14 +0000

Good thoughts. I’ve often found myself “chasing my tail” because I am out doing something or other every day of the week. Even running short errands really cuts into the day, because there’s the preparation for them, getting everyone in and out of carseats multiple times, traffic, putting away what we bought, ect. I do a lot better if I keep errands to 1-2x per week, and stay home-centered the rest of the week, and for all the reasons you listed.

By: Laura Mouro

Laura Mouro — Sat, 09 Jan 2010 15:21:18 +0000

You are absoultely right! This has been my conviction for some time now. We are not missing out on anything by being at home. This is where my heart is and I want to teach my children the same through my example.

By: Missy

Missy — Sat, 09 Jan 2010 14:50:40 +0000

Amen! Great post. I completely agree with you! We only head out a couple of times a week but I have many friends who are out running around ALL the time. It sometimes makes me question if I’m missing something. But Titus teaches us to be busy at home! I truly believe that’s better for so many reasons.

Thanks for the reminder today!