Comments on: Christian Marriage: He Can’t Read Your Mind

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By: Water Container :

Water Container : — Mon, 25 Oct 2010 05:56:43 +0000

i think that saving your marriage should always be a priority for those people who might have a deteriorating relationship duri:~.

By: Saving Your Marriage Before It Starts

Saving Your Marriage Before It Starts — Mon, 03 May 2010 14:32:46 +0000

Saving Your Marriage Before It Starts…

Most people think of divorce as an event. Actually it is more like a process. If you cannot reach an agreement with your spouse on various issues like children, alimony and property division, then you can ask a judge to hold a trial and make a decision…

By: Diana

Diana — Mon, 15 Feb 2010 08:29:47 +0000

By Charity-
Perhaps you are just the frugal type? I grew up that way and could never ask for stuff as a kid. I’d feel guilty to tell my grandma what school clothes I wanted even when she took me shoping for that exact purpose. I’d feel guilty to buy the large OJ when she’d take me to breakfast. Once my dh gave me money for a new bra and I felt guilty and used it for bills, lol. I dont even like to pay extra for BBQ sauce at a restaurant…just too practical for my own good sometimes. Or perhaps you are just worried that you might sound demanding or ungrateful. Those are probably good qualities that will help keep you from taking advantage of his kindness. I think if your dh asks you you should just be honest and go ahead and give him the help he has requested sometimes then just leave it to him and be easy going if you dont get everything you ever dreamed of. After all, many gals who look like they have a sweetheart husband dont. They just have material things given to them and no real love.

-sorry for all the posts, lol. I’d better get back to tending to baby.

By: Diana

Diana — Mon, 15 Feb 2010 07:42:25 +0000

Kelly,
Yes! God is good and it fills me with awe whenever I stop and look at my precious family and marriage. Only His work saved us and I certainly didnt deserve a bit of it. Over and over again I think of that verse about turning mourning to dancing. That is what the Lord did for me. Thanks for praising Him with me

By: Diana

Diana — Mon, 15 Feb 2010 07:36:08 +0000

WW,
thanks..I think if we remember that we ourselves were forgiven and are sinners (and really ponder it sometimes) we’ll be far more gracious to others. I read something once..I dont remember who said it. Maybe RC Sproul Jr..whoever it was said that we should be tough on ourselves and heap grace on others. For example when someone is rude to us we freak out but when we are rude to them we say we just needed sleep and had a bad day. But what if we rebuked ourselves for our own wrongs and then say …oh, THEY must have had a hard day. Giving them the benefit of the doubt. I think people just think too highly of themselves and so we focus more on the offenses recieved rather than the ones we are sending. Sort of on the same thought as the faslse ideals from romance novels etc only we are thinking falsely of ourselves as well.

By: Charity

Charity — Sat, 13 Feb 2010 19:31:27 +0000

Ok, maybe I’m the weird one here, but I feel guilty to tell my husband something that I want. In fact he has to draaag it out of me! Holidays, birthday, special days…I can’t bring myself to ask or show or hint even when there is a certain something that I would love for him to do or get for me. Maybe I have a disorder or something. It bothers me that I can’t speak up and it bothers him that I don’t because he wants to do all he can for me to show that he loves me. I’ve wandered lately if this stems from my coming from an abusive home?? I guess I’m just a case.

Oh, and the ice craving…I’m right there with you Kelly. I have always had low iron too. My husband goes out on the porch and crushes ice almost every night for me. (I’m sure our neighbors think we are nuts!) And yep…Sonic ice is a must have expecially when I’m pregnant. Can’t get enough!

By: Kelly L

Kelly L — Fri, 12 Feb 2010 15:28:01 +0000

Diana,
I was just tearing up and praising God fr what He did for your family. I love Him, He is so great!!!!!

By: Word Warrior

Word Warrior — Fri, 12 Feb 2010 14:51:33 +0000

Diana,

You made so many great points. And I agree…many a marriage would be saved/improved if we could “get it”. One important point you made: “false romance” Bingo. We expect things from husband that are unrealistic because somewhere we’ve been fed this false ideal.

And thanking him for the way he does show love…HUGE.

He’s pretty simple…we need to work on being that way too!

By: Diana

Diana — Fri, 12 Feb 2010 06:13:53 +0000

This post is GREAT! My dh and I have talked about this alot over the years. I am convinced so many marriages could be lovely if people would stop expecting their spouse to read their minds. Wow. My dh constantly hears complaints from the gals a work especially around the holidays. Valentines day is coming up so all of us gals get to practice this soon I actually am doing pretty well in this area (I have plenty of other faults but was spared this one) and decided years ago that it just didnt makes sense to expect this sort of false romance (probably from reading too many books). Now when I clean a room or wear a special dress or whatever it is, I dont wait for him to notice. I just say ‘how do you like what I did to this or that’ or ask if my dress looks ok (which he usually responds with something flowery). If I need a hug I just go get one (and it also makes the wife seem more loving and affectionate to initiate this too). Another thing is that I have stopped worrying at all about ‘special days’. They are no big deal to me (though it is sweet if he thinks of something). Women stumble and get full of bitterness and anger all the time over holidays. My husband didnt get me this or that..or he forgot or was late etc . Or they covet what another woman got instead of being glad for them. But the fact is that many years ago I had a horrible marriage. We were violent to eachother and my dh was addicted to pornography. He almost left me and the kids for porn. But the Lord was merciful and now we have such a beautiful marriage. Holidays or anniversaries etc are just silly things to get uptight about. If your dh works hard, doesnt get drunk or beat you etc you should be glad. Find the good things about him to dwell on and just mention your bday if it is so important to you. Each year dh and I just pick a place we want to go out to eat for our bday and we do it at our nearest convenience and take the whole family. Let’s praise God for what he has given us in our husbands! I can tell you it will make you feel so free and blessed and maybe even save your marriage! Also, it might help you financially so your dh wont feel like he must buy you expensive stuff or go into debt for gifts. My dh is a baker. sometimes he will bring me a special donut from work. That is better than a diamond bracelet or whatever any day!