Comments on: What Does a Stay-at-Home Mom Do All Day?

By: Misty

Misty — Sat, 28 Jan 2012 19:37:27 +0000

Wow, this is good too hear. So trying to get past the “just surviving” phase at this point. In fact some days not even sure we’re doing that well. This list is somewhat overwhelming, honestly, but good none the less.

By: Erin

Erin — Mon, 13 Dec 2010 13:44:51 +0000

I just came across your website this morning because I was feeling the doubts of a SAHM “What am I accomplishing.” “Would my time be better spent out helping my husband earn money.” “Would my children learn more in the structure of a daycare.” Reaching out for some instant answers I went to Google and typed “what do at home mothers do during the day?” I came to your article here about the “SAHM” and it’s beautiful. I am a religious person and have faith in my role as a mother as the most important work I’ll do on earth. But the pull of the world sometimes drags me down and I wonder “What am I doing here?” Your article was a reminder of all the beautiful things a mother can do and should do, of the beauty of “home” and how we are to actually create a home and that it doesn’t happen because we simple move into it. Thank-you so much. I feel motivated and grateful.

By: Word Warrior

Word Warrior — Fri, 24 Sep 2010 11:48:05 +0000

Nae,

One little “correction” or at least thought to add to your comment…Prov 31 woman didn’t exactly “work outside the home” and certainly didn’t have what we think of as “career”. She was a seamstress and she sold her products to merchants; the merchants are the ones who actually spent time out in the marketplace all day selling her items. She was more of a wholesaler. So I think it’s important as we discuss her to see that yes, she provides and excellent example of earning extra income. But she didn’t do it to the detriment of her other priorities and she didn’t become “enslaved” to a full time job elsewhere.

By: Nae

Nae — Fri, 24 Sep 2010 03:30:50 +0000

K. I stay at home, but I do agree with your post. In P31 she is a SAHM, wife, and a worker outside the home. I think as women we have to be aware of our priorities. God 1st, spouse 2nd, children 3rd, church, then career. As long as our priorites stay in order and none of the 1st three are suffering, we can ‘have it all’ just as P31!! Matthew 6:33 But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you. I am thankful I stay at home with my children and love that I get to. To each his{her} own, but keep God you number one! Just a word of advice: make sure you are the one raising your children, not outsiders! It’s convenient to send them off to daycare, school, babysitter, etc and forget the lessons that should come from a parent! God is so good, and I am so thankful he has allowed me’ to raise 2 of his precious children!

By: Stephanie

Stephanie — Wed, 30 Jun 2010 17:46:57 +0000

I would like to say, thank you for this post! It is very much timely for my life right now. In fact, it leads me to a question that I need to ask another mother who is farther ahead in the road than me, I have a 4 year old son and a 14 month old daughter. How do I get control? Everything I do is a joke. I know this sounds rather ridiculous, however, it is the truth. I would love to make healthy meals, my son refuses to eat them. I would love to have routine, it would be a fight every step of the way. I have prayed, I have read books, I have read blogs, I have cried. I have tried. But, I am failing. Perhaps, I as a person am out of control and it is reflecting on my home and children. I would love some advice. I know, it is so easy to say, a 4 your old is controling my life. And, there is such a huge back story to all of this as well, but it would only lead to excuses. The facts are laid out, I have to change it, now. I would very much love any advice you might give… Stephanie

By: Mrs. Lady Sofia

Mrs. Lady Sofia — Wed, 24 Feb 2010 22:14:03 +0000

Kelly,

I appreciated as well as needed to read this post today.

Unlike most of the women here who have children, I do not, but I am a full-time homemaker, who “came home” 9 months ago to better serve my Lord and husband. I’m sure that most people would think that this decision was foolish. However, my husband and I, with the Lord’s help, know that is best for our family.

Since my contact with others is minimal, fortunately, I don’t get the silly, “what do you do all day” question. However, my extended family members are adjusting to my “new life style” and seem to be accepting of this choice.

My days may not be as full as a woman who has little ones under her skirts, but I do keep busy with various projects, and I can honestly say that I don’t become bored. I used to work outside the home in the past, and I was quite bored with my outside jobs. The best part of the day was leaving them to come home!

Of course, being home full-time requires you to “think outside the box,” which I am still learning to do, but it’s worth it because my marriage is less stressful, and my husband is quite happier with me taking care of things on the home front.

At any rate, I’d like to thank you again Kelly for sharing this blessed post with your fellow blog readers.

~Mrs. Lady Sofia~

By: Ashley

Ashley — Wed, 24 Feb 2010 21:00:17 +0000

What term do you like? I would think “Homemaker” would suit just fine, although maybe it is too old-fashion for some. I have heard people say they are a “Domestic Engineer”. I don’t like that. Sounds like they are trying too hard to sound prestigious or something.

By: Ashley

Ashley — Wed, 24 Feb 2010 20:59:38 +0000

By: Christina

Christina — Wed, 24 Feb 2010 17:46:04 +0000

Oh my goodness. I am so blessed by this post! I am a SAHM of 4 (soon to be more) and there is always something to do around here. Only recently have I realized that I am not the only one to have to do it though I have started teaching my children to work. I know that sounds strange, but I cannot tell you what a revelation this has been for me! It took about a month of doing all the “chores” AND teaching the kids to do them along side me (instead of waiting till nap time and doing them by myself or letting them watch a movie while I finish up) But now there is free time. We have been learning to embroider. We have had more time for homeschooling. I have had time to prepare things that just fell by the wayside before. Each of my children, from 8 down to 3 has work to do in the house. And each one of them gets to see how they effect the rest of the home. If the three year old does not do his chores, the other kids cannot do theirs (he sorts laundry the others fold it and put it away) and if the 8 yo does not do hers than mommy cannot make dinner… It has been SO wonderful seeing them learn to be responsible for themselves (and each other) And I am able to do so many more stay at home mama things that I never had the time to before.

Thank you so much for this post! I am going to repost

By: jill f.

jill f. — Wed, 24 Feb 2010 17:08:51 +0000

I agree, Kelly, I’ve always disliked the term SAHM because it sounds so….inactive maybe? I don’t just stay at home…some days I move very fast to get it all done! A wise pastor’s wife said, “If you’re a tired SAHM at the end of the day it means you’re doing something right!”

I have to say, though, that I was one of those ladies who wanted to be home and my hubby wanted me home but I was pretty bored with only a couple of children. We moved a lot and I didn’t have a car so I got my housework done in the morning and then put the little ones in a stroller and walked all over town. I didn’t have a computer but I am a fast reader so I could easily (and did) read lots of homemaking books quickly. I also waited around every day for Focus on the Family to come on the radio-I needed encouragement all alone in my little hom!

Now I have eight children and a self-employed hubby and lots of folks seeking me out for advice and help so I have to carve out time to stay in my house with my family and putter around. I love it!

I look back and realize that those lonely years with small children and long hours alone in my house were learning years. I learned to lean on Christ and I did educate myself quie a bit.