Comments on: A Letter to My Children About Marriage

By: Stop Divorce

Stop Divorce — Tue, 08 Jun 2010 21:01:19 +0000

Stop Divorce…

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By: Ben De Boef

Ben De Boef — Mon, 26 Apr 2010 02:59:11 +0000

THE KEY: Lower your expectations. Nothing makes us more unhappy than others not living up to what we want. I love it when my wife makes grilled cheese for dinner…Perhaps not much to some, but SHE MADE DINNER! It’s a win! Every small act is an act of love when you don’t expect it. I find this the key to my happiness!

By: Joyce

Joyce — Tue, 13 Apr 2010 19:55:01 +0000

How did you get so smart within such a few years?
Keep up the good work, little Darling. )

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Interesting Links: March 2010 Edition — Thu, 01 Apr 2010 09:19:40 +0000

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By: Mrs. Santos

Mrs. Santos — Mon, 29 Mar 2010 02:38:53 +0000

Thank you.

By: Lori

Lori — Sun, 28 Mar 2010 17:49:08 +0000

Jennifer – “We have to be careful, though, in saying to others that certain things, especially marriage, are only about holiness; that sounds offhand like the horrific life of religion without faith: cold, empty, sterile, going through the motions with no heart life.”

I’m sure that’s exactly what people think about me and my marriage when my husband gives me a less than discreet holy slap on the butt! XD

Don’t forget that there is a contex for everything in life, even on blogs!

By: Jennifer

Jennifer — Fri, 26 Mar 2010 17:21:17 +0000

I agree that EVERY part of life is meant to be about holiness, not just happiness, and that true happiness comes from obeying God; this is how He designed us and we can’t be happy any other way, after all. We have to be careful, though, in saying to others that certain things, especially marriage, are only about holiness; that sounds offhand like the horrific life of religion without faith: cold, empty, sterile, going through the motions with no heart life. If you were to tell a non-believer that being a Christian is about holiness and not happiness, they’d look at you pityingly as a person shackled to suffocating rules beyond the reach of life-breath, all for something that to all appearances denies natural design. It’s true, of course, that Christianity is about holiness, but my point is that such statements need FAR more explanation. Otherwise, both the Christian life and model for marriage would sound even to me like a stifling habit instead of true healthy living.

By: Jennifer

Jennifer — Fri, 26 Mar 2010 17:11:25 +0000

“We don’t marry for happiness, we marry for holiness.”

That’s a very incomplete statement. There has to be love there; you don’t just marry someone because they’re a good Christian and you’ll be making a holy union. That sort of thing, marriage for “duty” I suppose, is a road to misery. I won’t marry a man unless I’m certain he and I were designed by God to be together.

By: Jennifer

Jennifer — Fri, 26 Mar 2010 17:05:24 +0000

I think you probably are, Monica (though Kelly’s wiser in experience here, so she may disagree). Where I’d draw the line, though, is sharing any intimate experience at all with your husband. It’s so darn easy to breach this: we see endless TV shows and even one darned irresponsible Christian book (on my part) where women are either complaining about sexual frusterations with their husbands to their friends or sharing nice experiences. It doesn’t MATTER whether the experience was nice or not; it’s private, and if my hubby was sharing our “beautiful last night” with his friends I’d be beyond furious. Plus, women talk; it’s not for nattering lips to hear about Sherry’s hot renewal time with Jerry. The only exception, I think, would be if the husband’s doing something harmful and the wife isn’t sure how to respond.