(Photography courtesy of His Hands Photographs)
I couldn’t be reminded enough of the beauty of the mystery of God’s commands in marriage. Knowing us so intimately, he commanded my husband to LOVE me, and me to RESPECT my husband. The best way to show him love is to respect him…that is his basic need.
So often, we allow ourselves to look for the wrong in our husbands…to expect it. And then we fuel it by talking over his weakness to our friends, or mulling over it in our minds.
What if we thought differently? (“Taking every thought captive to the obedience of Christ.”)
What if we constantly pondered his positive traits, his willingness to work, to give, to protect and provide? Am I thankful that he tries to keep gas in the car so I don’t have to pump it?
Or do we get hung up on whether he noticed our new outfit? Or why he doesn’t just “sense” that I need a date night? Do I offer an exaggerated sigh if he makes a driving mistake? Do those little quirks really have to irritate us?
What if we really started seeing him through different eyes?
We can be so petty about the things we expect, looking right over all the gems buried inside that man of ours!
I want to be his cheerleader, his “safe place”…he encounters enough difficulty and discouragement.
Do I create a place where he longs to be? Do I conserve enough energy to give him, or do I give him my leftovers?
As his created helper, am I helping?
Do I smile at him like I think he’s the greatest thing since chocolate?
Do I simply appreciate him…the one thing he really craves?
You want to be treated like a queen? Treat him like a king. (Note to self.)