This is likely the most important post in our HOME series. As I listened to my husband read Charles Spurgeon’s devotion, these words flooded my heart and mind with the essence of what home is and why its neglect is so detrimental to all of us:
“Covetousness, discontent, and murmuring are as natural to man as thorns are to the soil. We need not sow thistles and brambles; they come up naturally enough, because they are indigenous to earth: and so, we need not teach men to complain; they complain fast enough without any education. But the precious things of the earth must be cultivated. If we would have wheat, we must plough and sow; if we want flowers, there must be the garden, and all the gardener’s care.”
We must be able to see past today, and see that the most important thing we do in the home is GROW people for tomorrow. But if it’s not deliberate and intentional and constant and continuous, then the people who grow there will default to their natural vices–weeds and sinfulness, and all that is inherent to man.
Cultivating people with the virtues we deem important and useful and good for society (and the Kingdom of God) requires that someone be devoted to the deliberate work.
We’ve been carefully brainwashed from years of feminist dogma, to believe that anyone can do the “menial” work of caring for little people, and in fact, should, so that we can do something more important. They made us focus on the diapers and potty training so we we wouldn’t see the soul-work, the intense, life-growing efforts that go alongside the physical tasks.
So we bought it, and we’ve let someone else do the physical work of raising our children, forgetting that those people aren’t willing or able to do the daily weeding out of vices, and nurturing, cultivating and growing the graces and virtues that make men and women noble, true and pure.
And that’s not all…marriages default to weeds, relationships default to weeds, our own spiritual natures will default if there isn’t a careful, constant effort…the deliberate growing at home of marriages, families, and people who reflect God’s grace, not the neglected garden of the sluggard.
Neglected homes yield brambles and thorns. We desperately need fruitfulness that comes from careful, faithful labor. God help us to see how menial all our other tasks are in comparison to growing home.