Mothers and wives get discouraged because we are short-sighted.
We believe our job hovers in the mundane for most of our days and the mundane hasn’t been touted for its importance in our culture. But Jesus actually gave credence to it. So while we may choose it, consider it our Christian duty, most of us still view this job as feminists do: unimportant because mundane isn’t spectacular.
That’s not how God sees our job. He has not called us to drudge through the mundane of life. From the first created marriage, He gave us the glorious task of taking dominion. And when Adam and Eve began that work, God told them it would be hard, tedious, but still glorious.
In our homes, we have the chance to take dominion precisely through the mundane. But if we aren’t living on purpose, we’re just passing the days. What a tragedy to look back and think that we could have spent our days doing the very same thing only with great purpose and accomplishment!
Here are just a few ways to turn the mundane into meaning:
1. Task: Washing dishes
- Dispels discontentment (“I have learned, in whatever state I am in, therewith to be content.”)
- Evangelizes your nation (The little people in your home are your disciples, looking to their teacher to learn how to respond to life. The way you respond to the mundane either contains hints of the gospel, or it doesn’t. Teach them the power of gratitude by your display.)
- Strengthens your belief in the importance of humility and service. (“And if anyone gives even a cup of cold water to one of these little ones who is my disciple, truly I tell you, that person will certainly not lose their reward.”)
2. Task: Wiping up spilled something…again.
Action: Smile. It might hurt, but do it anyway.
Ask the messer to clean it and kneel down to help him. Tell him you spill things sometimes too.
You have discipled his heart to know better the Father’s heart toward us, and you’ve built trust and he’s not afraid of messing up.
3. Task: Picking up hubby’s dirty clothes from the floor
Action: Pray. Thank God for your husband’s faithfulness, hard work, devotion, surprises, changing the oil, whatever comes to mind. Express gratitude that you get to serve him, to make his life just a little easier.
- A kinder heart toward your husband
- A humility that God promises will be rewarded openly.
4. Task: Settling sibling disputes
Action: Hug each one when it’s over. Tell them they were forgiven so that they might forgive others. Explain that you will help them fight the temptation to strife and that living in peace is a much sweeter way to live. Show them ways to respond differently.
Little by little, weeding hearts and strengthening virtues, showing your children that you are in this thing with them, for the long haul, through the messes, every day. They don’t have to go it alone and the Bible has every answer for our problems.
5. Task: Changing diapers
Action: Smile, talk and recite Scripture into that little face.
Speaking words of life that will not return void. Telling that baby he is safe, loved and wanted. Investing in his care so that one day he will naturally invest in yours.
6. Task: Sweeping floor
Action: Do it cheerfully, maybe with a couple of twirls for effect and maybe with some fun music.
- Speaks to your disciples about the power of gratitude for changing attitude.
- Reflects the Creator as we make order out of chaos. Pointing that out is powerful. Reflecting the Creator is not mundane.
- Tells your family that you love them, are glad to serve them, a trait they will eventually pick up and practice in your family and their own.
7. Task: Planning/preparing meals
Action: Pray for God to help you understand the importance of food and relationships, shown through His Word, down to our command to weekly reflect on his death through a supper of bread and wine. Purpose, no matter how simple the meal, to love your family through it, to nurture their bodies as you do their souls, to use the kitchen time and table time to tie heart strings of fellowship.
- Deep-seated memories that will go with your children for the rest of their lives.
- A cultivated time of talking, education, interaction and bonding that will last forever.
- A tangible act of love to your family as you break bread together, pointing to the Bread of Life who provides it all.
No, what you do it not mundane. You are doing just what the Father asks you to do. Ministering the least of these in the most basic, loving ways. You are taking time, moment by moment, to weave these small, deliberate actions into one magnificent masterpiece. See the significance in that one stitch and remember, weaving masterpieces takes time.
In case you are wondering, this was a very convicting post for me to write.
For more inspiration, there’s the book: When Motherhood Feels Too Hard