Parenting is hard. And if you’re like me, the longer you’re a parent, the more you realize you don’t know what you’re doing. Because every child, every temperament and every personality is different. Even if you figured it out with one, you’ll be scratching your head with the next.
But there are some things foundational to all of parenting, and it’s those things we need to remind ourselves of and practice.
Too often, our emotions get in the way of good parenting. If we were brutally honest, we’d admit that most of our parenting is centered around getting our kids to behave the way that will bring us the least stress and inconvenience. That’s parenting out of selfishness; but we are called to parent from a place of sacrifice.
Our parenting should be for our children. And because they are children–and sinful at that–parenting is a marathon that requires daily perseverance, patience and grace.
GRACE!!! That’s missing too often. Amid the boundaries and discipline that is most necessary, we have to parent from a place of grace, helping our children understand their need of a Savior in their disobedience.
Which is why I was so convicted and moved by Paul David Tripp’s brief admonition in the video Grace Liberates Your Parenting. I’ll admit, I cried more than a few tears, and then I begged the Lord to help me up again to run this race He’s called me to.
Do yourself a favor and watch it. Here’s another short article he wrote, What is Success in Parenting Teens, that is so excellent.
If you’re a parent, you simply must hear this message. And then, I’d love to chat about it in the comments. We’re in this together, and having a place to share our struggles is a good thing.