Caution: Blood-Boiling, Feminist TRUTH Ahead

(I know it’s a bit long…read it anyway.)

Oh boy…after repeated accusations that I get my anti-feminist ideas from “pre-50’s” literature and Google searches for “feminism is bad”, I decided to do an open-minded search for these new claims of modern feminism.  The claims that “old feminism was hostile to men and family, but NEW feminism is all about choice and respect of that choice…that motherhood is a perfectly honorable “choice”, as long as it’s not the only one”.  That should soften my ideas a bit, huh?

WRONG!!!  My blood was boiling after just a few news stories…and I only had room to post a smidgen of the stuff I found.  It’s hard for me to fathom that these conclusions were made by someone who claims to be educated.  Now I know what the Bible means about the “wisdom of the world being foolishness”.

Feminism does one thing REALLY well…LIE.  And they continue to.  Yes, some feminists thought their previous agenda too judgmental, so they have opted to use softer terms like “choice” to make all women feel included.  Well in truth, that is not the feminist agenda–never was, never can be.  They are still about belittling the family, the role of marriage and motherhood–they hate “choice”, and on the destruction goes. Read carefully and stay tuned to the bottom of the page for the “solution”:

Linda Hirshman asks:  “More and more women are leaving the workforce to stay home and raise kids. Has feminism failed?”  (If you listen, the question itself reveals the heart of feminism.)

“In interviews, women with enough money to quit work say they are “choosing” to opt out. Their words conceal a crucial reality: the belief that women are responsible for child-rearing and homemaking was largely untouched by decades of workplace feminism. 

The family — with its repetitious, socially invisible, physical tasks — is a necessary part of life, but it allows fewer opportunities for full human flourishing than public spheres like the market or the government.

Women who want to have sex and children with men as well as good work in interesting jobs where they may occasionally wield real social power need guidance, and they need it early.

Step one is simply to begin talking about flourishing. In so doing, feminism will be returning to its early, judgmental roots. This may anger some, but it should sound the alarm before the next generation winds up in the same situation. Next, feminists will have to start offering young women not choices and not utopian dreams but solutions they can enact on their own. Prying women out of their traditional roles is not going to be easy. It will require rules — rules like those in the widely derided book The Rules, which was never about dating but about behavior modification.

• So the first rule is to use your college education with an eye to career goals.

 

• If you are good at work you are in a position to address the third undertaking: the reproductive household. The rule here is to avoid taking on more than a fair share of the second shift…When couples marry, the amount of time that a woman spends doing housework increases by approximately 17 percent..to avoid this kind of rut, you can either find a spouse with less social power than you or find one with an ideological commitment to gender equality. Taking the easier path first, marry down.  (emphasis mine)..Rhona Mahoney recommended finding a sharing spouse by marrying younger or poorer, or someone in a dependent status, like a starving artist.

 

• If these prescriptions sound less than family-friendly, here’s the last rule: Have a baby. Just don’t have two (can you hear me going “AGHHHHHH!”)….women who opt out for child-care reasons act only after the second child arrives. A second kid pressures the mother’s organizational skills, doubles the demands for appointments, wildly raises the cost of education and housing, and drives the family to the suburbs.  It is true that if you follow this rule, your society will not reproduce itself.  (!!!  She’s educated, people!)

“Why do we care?  We care because what they do is bad for them, and is certainly bad for society.”

“At feminism’s dawning, two theorists compared gender ideology to a caste system. To borrow their insight, these daughters of the upper classes will be bearing most of the burden of the work always associated with the lowest caste: sweeping and cleaning bodily waste.”  (My note:  There you have it:  the feminists summation of raising the next generation–forget life-changing impacts, shaping characters and destinies, building strong minds and lives–just cleaning up bodily waste.)  

From America’s Stay-at-Home Feminists, Linda Hirshman

 

This article even spewed the stupidity that if a mother’s income is only enough to pay for child care, it is “incorrect to say she would be better staying home”.  The author said the fair assessment is to combine the total household income, and subtract childcare, leaving the total household profit.  There…that should make us all feel better, shouldn’t it? (ditzy voice:  ”I went to Harvard and I’m very good at math.”)  Because the MAIN thing is to stay away from home and the children.

In a nutshell, feminism is nothing more than a ME religion.  It dismisses what is best for any person, now or later, besides ME.  It even dismisses the reality of a total, societal-self-destruction…as long as I can do what I want to do right now; after all, I’ll be dead when it all hits the fan.

Now if you’ll excuse me, I’m going to go put my hair out.  It may cause me to go into labor.

I had to add this clip of Hirshman for a little comic relief…I think you’ll enjoy it.

Former Feminist Applauds Michelle Obama…. “Women Can Make Husband/Family Successful By Leaving Her Career”

Michelle Obama has created more than a few feminist waves by making the decision to leave her $273,000 career in order to support her husband and family.  She said she wants to

” — feminists hold on to your hats — be a mother, a wife and to support her husband in every way she can in his job as President….She is, perhaps, the perfect example of a new kind of career woman who, instead of wanting it all for herself, wants it all for her family.”   from Mail Online

Feminist Bonnie Erbe sheds a telling light on true feminist thought in her response (and they tell me feminists are just for “whatever women want”???):

“I think it is a sad state of affairs that Americans are more comfortable with a non-threatening first lady than with a career woman, but it is also a stereotype that screams to be abolished. Michelle Obama is just the person who could have done it, but she decided against it. Instead, she caved into advisors’ demands (My note:  I’m doubting the validity of this statement).

The truth is, until that stereotype becomes history, all women will suffer less power and clout in the workplace.”

But Michelle has had some applauding too.  I’m so encouraged to see others FINALLY taking notice of what is so logical in the success of a healthy family, and actually being bold enough to say it!

Megan Basham uses the first lady as an example in her book called “Behind Every Successful Man”…

“The title is not just a trite twist on the familiar concept behind every successful man; it has much greater meaning than that. Basham argues that by using all your talents, skills, education and qualifications, you can make your husband’s career a stellar success, and your family life spectacularly happy.”

 And listen to this…

“…the best of both worlds–a woman enjoying using her honed professional skills (read:  gifts and abilities) to enhance her husband’s career, but at the same time having the freedom and pleasure of spending more time with her children.”

It gets even better…

“Basham, an American author, dyed-in-the-wool feminist and successful career woman earning significantly more than her husband, explains it this way:

‘What my friends had in common is that they left school planning to spend most of their adult years working in their chosen fields, and expecting always to derive a lot of satisfaction from their careers.

‘Several years ago, I started to notice that among many of us, as other areas of our lives expanded, the enjoyment we derived from our jobs began to shrink. Work began to seem more like an intrusion on our real lives than a vital part of it.’

She and her successful career girlfriends wanted to spend more time enjoying being mothers and wives. But there was a financial imperative as they were all fully paid-up members of the two-income economy.

We realised we had to start looking at our dilemma from a new angle, and to start seeing our marriages as our own little business enterprises and our husbands as partners in that enterprise.’

Makes you wanna shout “Amen–it’s what we’ve been saying all along!”

Basham said she really began to see things differently after reading about John Adams and his wife, Abagail.

“I was fascinated by the relationship between Adams and his wife. He relied on her in almost every aspect of his work — and in the midst of the goal-setting and strategic planning they wrote each other intimate, teasing and tender love letters that revealed the sweet partnership they had in all things….

Her strength, confidence, intelligence and eloquence were nearly as significant to her husband’s success as his own were. Adams so clearly valued his wife’s insight, and cherished her companionship, that there could be no question of her being anyone’s lackey.’

They eventually grew to become ‘almost one soul in two bodies’.

In a word, Basham’s tells women they have the power to make their husbands successful or to cause them failure.  By seeing his potential and nurturing that instead of his weaknesses, she can be a partner in a very successful enterprise. 

An enterprise…I submit that it’s really difficult to share the same enterprise when you are both solely devoted to entirely different enterprises, no?

Because, and GET THIS–it’s not about “his success vs. my success”…not when you understand what God said at the beginning… “the two shall become one“.  And live that way.   It’s about OUR success as a family; the cogs and wheels working together to create one operation that functions correctly.

That’s how to get your cake and eat it too!

“A woman must share her husband’s love with his work and the fire of his spirit, or make him a thing not lovable.”    ~J.R.R. Tolkien

Excerpts taken from Mail Online

Why I Removed the Comments

A long, quiet search of my thoughts brought me to a realization I’ve known, and just failed to enforce on this blog.

When I created the blog, I had two purposes:

1. To encourage, challenge and inspire Christian mothers and wives in their life calling.

2. To challenge women in the body of Christ to think about areas where the church as been affected by worldly wisdom, and to encourage Christian women to seek the truth of God’s Word for the direction of their lives.

Because I am a busy mother, even accomplishing these two things takes careful balance of my time. And because of that, I can not allow the blog to become an apologetics platform where worldviews are battled out.

Debate is good; I love it to a fault. But when people are “debating” from two different worldviews, it is no longer debate, but “foolish disputing” which the Bible warns us not to partake of.

I welcome those who are searching for truth, who are looking for Jesus, who are hurting, or lonely, or confused, to come and listen and be a part of our conversations here.

I’m not even opposed to disagreements. Despite the accusations, I have always allowed differing opinions.

But the blog is officially closed to those who are settled in their minds about their opposite world views.

I don’t have time to prove creationism, disprove atheism or other opposite worldviews from mine. There ARE blogs that do, those who have that calling, so if that’s your thing, I’m sure you’ll not be disappointed.

I am not here to discuss whether feminism is harmful; I know it is. I was once a feminist, I’ve studied it, read about it from its own proponents, am fully aware about the three waves, am fully aware that many of you who are feminists do not feel aggression towards those who are not, and I know that some simply view feminism as a wonderful movement with no other intent than protecting women.

I am not “open to being convinced otherwise”. Call me closed-minded, it matters little. Some of you feel the same way about biblical roles in marriage. I will not come to your blogs and try to convince you otherwise. (Freedom of choice, right?)

I want this to be a pleasant place. Not necessarily where we always agree, but where we are all at least starting from the same foundation of truth. I simply don’t have time to be “all things” here.

Thank you for obliging.

Comments which do not comply will be deleted, or comment moderation will be enabled.

I’m Not Against Feminists, Only Feminism

I’ll not post the other Mary Kassian videos (makes the pages load slower) as you can easily get to the other ones by clicking on the next parts from the bottom of yesterday’s clip. I strongly encourage you to watch them.

And though I’ve said it so many times before, still, proponents of feminism seem to take my stand against feminism personally.

Let me say that I believe MOST feminists think that feminism was meant for the good of women. So when I speak against it, it seems I’m “against women” or against those who claim feminism. When in fact, the opposite is true. I’m not against you, only the deception and destruction behind the movement.

After careful study of feminism, I believe with all my heart that its roots are planted in Marxism, a movement started by a MAN, and as he clearly stated, his agenda was to “get women out of the home” in order to break down the family in order to create a socialist society.

“major social transformations are impossible without ferment among the women.” –Karl Marx

He acknowledged that women had tremendous power and influence when they were training their children, supporting their husbands and strengthening their communities. He knew his agenda could not be accomplished until he weakened and/or destroyed that power.

Of course you can’t tell women that, so what happened? A movement was begun to convince women they were powerless in the home but if they could just throw off the shackles of their traditional roles, then they would be able to wield REAL power.

The lie continues, and feminism was conveniently constructed around the false premise that “women are inferior” and needed to be freed.

Unfortunately, there WERE women from history being abused. So the feminists agenda used this as a platform for their message. The truth is, the abuse wasn’t coming from a traditional, biblical view of marriage and home. Abuse exists and continues to exist (feminism has NOT reduced that abuse but increased it) because of sin and fallen man. The fact that there are more broken homes, destitute children, abandoned, abused and exploited women than there ever has been should be enough evidence to conclude that feminism didn’t deliver.

I hear feminists say, “we are only about choice…we don’t try to squelch your choice to be a mother, so why are you “against” us?”

Again, such who speak are not aware of the deeper roots of feminism. Consider this quote by feminist/socialist Simone de Beauvoir:

“No woman should be authorized to stay at home to raise her children. Society should be totally different. Women should not have that choice, precisely because if there is such a choice, too many women will make that one.”

And I said all that just to say…

I am not against the proponents of feminism. I believe most of them mean nothing but good, they are simply not aware of the full scope of the agenda. I speak against feminism only because I care about women, children and families. If you want to attack me for that, then I guess there is really nothing I could say; I’ll have to take the darts.

For some enlightening reading about the roots and history of feminism and Betty Friedan, go to Marxism and the roots of Radical Feminism

“In his recent book Perestroika, Mikhail Gorbachev reflected on 70 years of Russian turmoil: “We have discovered that many of our problems — in children’s and young people’s behavior, in our morals, culture and in production — are partially caused by the weakening of family ties.”

Fem-socialists, hell-bent on achieving a genderless society, are now scheming to repeat the same disastrous experiment in Western society. Naturally, they are hoping that you not hear the story of family destruction in Soviet Russia.

But the truth is there, waiting to be grasped by anyone who cares to see.”

Feminism…Mary Kassian…"You’ve Come a Long Way Baby!"

“Alvin Toffler, the author of Future Shock called The Feminine Mystique the book that pulled the trigger on history. Indeed, once woman accepted this very basic premise of needing and trusting no other authority except her own, personal truth, she set her foot on a path that would take her, and ultimately the whole of society, in a direction diametrically opposed to the heart and the purposes and the ways of God.”

Yvonne Welch, a woman dear to my heart who has had a profound influence on my life, told me of a speaker I needed to hear who was featured on Nancy Leigh DeMoss. (Mrs. Welch has an interview on DeMoss’s show also, if you’d like to look it up.)

Once I started listening, I couldn’t stop. I gathered my oldest daughter to listen with me, and the only words I can think of to describe this historically accurate, intelligent and profoundly important discussion about the impact of feminism are…STANDING OVATION.

Put it on while you wash the dishes, or make it part of your school day. However you need to make time, I think this series is crucial–not only in helping us understand and hold on to truth in a wavering culture, but to help us give an accurate answer to those who question.

Each part is only around 9 minutes long….you’ll be glad you listened; well, most of you

(BTW, she is a professor of women’s studies at a theological seminary, so she breaks the mold of the typical assertions made of women who embrace biblical gender roles….thought some would find that interesting.)

Women Hold the Keys to Real Power and Influence

What we’re witnessing around us politically and culturally may not appear to be directly related to our roles as women. But it is my opinion that it has everything to do with it. I fully understand why the forerunners of socialism and communism said, “We must influence the women first”.