- I don’t remember what you did to make me mad 1o minutes ago. Can we be friends again?
- What is my shoe size? It depends on how much I like the shoes.
- STOP EVERYTHING!! There’s a caterpillar.
- I didn’t notice you don’t have make up on and you haven’t had a shower and you’re hair looks bad. I still think you’re wonderful.
- It’s just peanut butter. And peanut butter is small in the big scheme of things. Don’t sweat the small stuff.
June Fuentes, from A Wise Woman Builds Her Home has written an extraordinarily practical, wise book about all things building a Christian home culture. For the mom who already understands building her home and the power of her influence, the book is an excellent shot in the arm, jarring us from our daily doldrums.
For the new mom, or a mother just beginning and desiring to understand how important her role is in building a Christian home, June’s book is packed with encouragement but also practical ideas about how to do it.
In a culture that treats home as merely a stopping place for people to eat and sleep, How to Build a Strong Christian Home is a much-needed clarion call for the church, the family and the Christian community, to reestablish the foundation of Christian culture. If we are to ever see the transforming power of Christ’s work in our churches and communities, we must first ignite it in our homes.
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Included in the book:
- The State Of The Home
- A Multi-Generational Vision: Leaving A Legacy
- The Exquisite Home Culture
- The Imperfect Home
- The Important Role Of Parents And Their Example
- Discipleship, Shepherding Hearts, And Teaching The Word Of God In The Christian Home
- Education In The Home: Purposeful And Powerful Kingdom Conversation
- Preparing Your Home: The Influence Of A Godly Atmosphere
- The Influence Of Entertainment
- Making Memories In The Kitchen & Gracious Hospitality
- Serving On A Mission Together As A Family
- The Foolish Woman Tears Down Her Home
- Guarding The Home
- The Secret To A Happy Home Life
I have discovered what I believe to be THE most important thing we can cultivate in our lives and instill in our children–the thing that will most determine how happy they are in life:
I know, you were hoping for something more spectacular or less common. But there are shades of gratitude (or ingratitude) we might not readily recognize.
First of all, we understand that gratitude isn’t simply remembering to say “thank you” when someone is kind or giving. Gratitude is a posture of processing everything in life that happens to us through the correct lens of truth.
It’s recognizing that we came into the world with nothing, no one owes us anything (not even God who has already given us the priceless gift of eternal life through His Son’s death) and all that we have is a gift.
Nancy Leigh DeMoss, in her book, Choosing Gratitude: Your Journey to Joy, describes gratitude as the result of humility, and ingratitude the result of pride, because the proud in heart believes he is owed something and can, in fact, never be satisfied with what he gets.
Have you seen a spirit of ingratitude lived out? We can talk about it in a book or a blog post, but until you’ve seen its destructive power you can’t quite grasp just how important it is.
A person with a spirit of ingratitude can’t move forward, especially when trials come (and trails will come!) They become paralyzed with the thoughts of “life is so unfair” and unable to see the blessings, gifts and grace poured out to them along the way.
Conversely, a grateful spirit, when faced with trials, can focus on all he has been given, look at his trial as an opportunity to grow and learn, and though there may be grief still, he doesn’t get bogged down with a victim mentality, shaking his fist at the world, never able to get back up and move again.
He is able to say with Job, even through pain, “The Lord gives and the Lord takes away, blessed be the name of the Lord.”
Of all the many things I wish to cultivate into the hearts of my children, I’m trying fervently to get this lesson across. To point them, even in the smallest of examples, to give thanks for where they are, what they have, and God’s abundant grace, and to recognize how he uses others in our lives to pour out that grace.
I believe it can make all the difference in the world to how they will respond to challenges as they grow up. It will make the difference in an overflowing heart (even in the direst of conditions) or an overwhelmed one.
May we grow them into real joy!
“Be joyful always; pray continually; give thanks in all circumstances, for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.” 1 Thessalonians 5:16-18
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Cindy Dyer is a friend and fellow-blogger whom I admire, trust and applaud for her consistent, clear voice in topics of controversy. When she told me she was writing a book to discuss how she believes the subject of children is and should be handled among Christians, I was so very excited.
First, I knew she would handle it well and thoughtfully, and biblically.
Secondly, it’s a much-needed word. I’ve long held the belief that the Church universal will suffer from impotence as long as it has a view of children inconsistent with that in Scripture. Pun very much intended.
Here’s the best part…Cindy’s book is absolutely FREE!
Here’s an excerpt:
“No number of children can either save you or condemn you. On the Last Day, when we stand before God, His question will not be “How many sons did you have?” but “What did you think of my Son?”
Naturally though, what we think of His Son, if we are in earnest in pursuing Him, will affect our earthly behaviors. Procreation is one area in which I see most of Christendom not thinking at all–not because they don’t care or because they harbor some sin in their hearts, but because the subject of faith and fertility has been removed from the bounds of polite discussion. Even worse, they’ve been removed as topics in the pulpit. Christians are, consequently, missing out on the most joyful blessing—and yes, the toughest responsibility—with which God has charged the human race: that of raising Godly offspring.”
“…our pastors and teachers don’t seem to me to be terribly frightened of confronting such egregious sexual sin as homosexual behavior, shacking up, fornication, or pornography….This is all well and good, and I’m glad to see it still happening even in this degenerate age. But this kind of teaching doesn’t go far enough. In fact, the social and political activism seems to me to be at its heart an attempt to clean up the mess we made ourselves. By refusing to loudly affirm the blessings of the family, including the eleventeenth child to be added to it, we’ve been giving the world’s attitude toward procreation a fig leaf of doctrinal respectability.”
Deceived is such a thoughtful and important discussion and I’m thankful to Cindy for it. Read it HERE.
Their naps fall right at cleaning up from lunch and wrapping up morning school stuff, and right before a full afternoon, squeezing all the life out of it I can.
“Will you tell me a story about a horse that poops butterflies?” He wants one about monster trucks. Again.
I was busy. I tell lots of stories. Today I needed to hurry and do…
more important stuff.
And I knew instantly, though she didn’t complain, what I was about to miss.
It’s the thousand small things in a day–the tiny, rhythmic motions that assure a child all is well, life is sure and steady.
It’s my choice to value our short story time as much as the other things, to tell her, by my stopping, that this–she–is the more important stuff.
Don’t we like to think that parenting greatness comes in big, lofty moments? That would be easier. But everything good happens slowly, steadily, growing almost imperceptible over time, through the ignoble, and it’s no different growing people. Maybe that’s why fewer and fewer are signing up for full time parenthood.
Simple. But excruciatingly hard.
And whether it’s telling a nap time story, waiting patiently for a shoe-tying rookie, or putting the broom down because my teenager needs to talk, if I rush through it, or neglect it altogether so I can be “on to bigger things”, I’ve missed the bigger things already.
“We cannot do great things on this earth. We can only do little things with great love.” -Mother Teresa